Don't pretend you've never been there. The ex calls, says a few nice things, cracks a few inside jokes you two used to share, and sometimes even flirts with the "what ifs". It would be okay if it stopped there, but sometimes that one call can take you into a world of confusion. Were things as bad as I thought they were? What could we be if we were still together now? It's very common to have mixed feelings arise when someone from your past contacts you, especially if you were once in love with that person. However, it's important to maintain your progression to happiness instead of backtracking into a situation you know you don't belong in. Here are a few tips on how to handle the moments with your ex in a way that doesn't cause a relapse.