While it's been an ongoing problem that texting is taking place of calling or meeting in person (even when it's about setting up dates or breaking things off), many of the modern dating issues are a two-faceted problem. It's easy to blame a man if he doesn't pay the bill or hold the door for a lady, but why would any lady put up with that behavior?
Time to admit that dating is a two-sided coin. If men need to "man-up," women need to "woman-up."
For instance ladies, if you get a text instead of a call, do you tell him that you prefer to hear his voice? If not, why not? Are you so afraid of being alone that you would put up with settling for crumbs when you deserve to have the whole loaf?
If you notice that a guy is pulling the hot-and-cold act, he's aloof, or you get mixed signals, do you drop him like a hot fish back into the dating pool? Well why not? Certainly, there are guys who will treat you better, hold doors, pay your way and call you for goodness sakes. Don't waste your time with the clowns who wave their hands to perform when you can have the main event if you're patient enough.
Do yourself a favor and start holding men to a higher standard. We will all benefit when you do.
That includes everything from not allowing ambivalence to pervade your dating experience, to stop playing him (financially or sexually). We really need emotionally mature grown-ups in the dating world, for both men and women.
Here are seven tips for women who need to "woman-up" before they're ready to date.