How good are you about pleasing your lover?
Most of us fall into two categories: the giver/pleaser and the receiver/taker. In relationships, this can become a problem when one of the two takes control.
Are you happier giving or receiving?
The giver/giver dynamic: when both parties are used to giving in a relationship, it can work well. There will be love and respect (most likely) in the relationship. The ability to share wants and needs will supersede the ego and personal gain.
Are you always giving in to your partner?
The giver/receiver dynamic is unbalanced to begin with. The person who is giving their love unconditionally will eventually cave into feeling resentment. Unrequited love is the worst, at least in my experience.
When both of you are receivers.
If both people in a relationship are used to receiving love and attention, it either never got into motion, or it's doomed to fail quickly. After all, two holes that are being dug side by side are not going to meet and find familiar ground. I know of two takers who got together in divorcing their families. Neither are happy. Neither feels respected. Is that from consequences of how they left their last relationship or the fact that two narcissists can't survive together? We'll probably never know.
You may not know how to please your lover, but the fact that he or she saw something in you to stay long term is reason enough to holler a cheer. What kinds of things do you do to show your affection? What does your lover think are the best ways to show your love. There should be a happy medium of the two.
What do you think is the right combination for a happy and healthy relationship? How do kids affect that decision? What kind of person do you seek and why?
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