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6 pet peeves about email exchanges with friends and family

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In this era of electronic communications, sometimes the email responses of friends and family can make you question their friendship or love. Friends and family are supposed to be there for you no matter what.

Here’s the truth – many folks out there do NOT know proper email etiquette when in comes to email amongst friends, significant others, family, and lovers. Instead of enhancing their relationships with their electronic communications, they produce anger and irritation with their emails. Knowing the top pet peeves people have about email from friends or family can help you avoid making those mistakes.

Click on the photos to see the 6 pet peeves about email exchanges with friends and family:

Email Pet Peeve #1
Email Pet Peeve #1 Love and Marriage Experts

Email Pet Peeve #1

Email Pet Peeve #1:  You don’t get a response to your email.  When your friend or family member doesn’t respond to an email, it sends a signal that you are not important.  All it takes is a “Thanks,” “Very interesting,” “Thanks for sharing,” etc.  Just respond!  It isn’t that hard.

Email Pet Peeve #2 . . .

Email Pet Peeve #2
Email Pet Peeve #2 Love and Marriage Experts

Email Pet Peeve #2

Email Pet Peeve #2:  Your friend or family member is constantly engaging in one-upmanship and sarcasm in their email messages.  When you feel like whatever you share in an email elicits sarcasm or one-upmanship, it is hard to want to continue communicating.  Sharing good news is in no way designed to belittle your friend or family member just because you had an accomplishment you are proud of.  You are not bragging, just wanting to share good news with your friend or family member.  Simply put, good news is something that is shared amongst true friends, significant others, and those who follow your work.  If they don’t like “good news,” they should ask you to delete their email address from your list.  That’s pretty simple don’t you think?  Why turn a positive into a negative?  When your friends or family members engage in sarcasm and one-upmanship when you share something positive in your life, it makes them look foolish.  The response you are waiting for is a simple, “Congratulations” or “Well done” or “You make us proud” or some show of enthusiasm about your good news.

Email Pet Peeve #3
Email Pet Peeve #3 Love and Marriage Experts

Email Pet Peeve #3

Email Pet Peeve #3:  All you hear are complaints or constant negativity in emails from your friend or family member.  Nobody likes a whiner!  Nobody likes someone who constantly complains about everything.  It gets old.  Try to be positive in your email messages.  Don’t resort to an endless stream of negativism.  Our real lives are full of challenges and things that make us mad.  A constant barrage of negativism turns friends off.  We all try our best to see goodness in the world.  In spite of all the negativism that exists in the world today, being positive is a virtue.  Send out a positive message, a positive web address, or an uplifting message.

Email Pet Peeve #4
Email Pet Peeve #4 Love and Marriage Experts

Email Pet Peeve #4

Email Pet Peeve #4:  You send your friend or lover a website URL to view or a YouTube video to watch and they tell you they have seen it before.  That reply can irritate the heck out of you.  Truth is, we are NOT a mind readers and do not have access to your computer.  We do NOT need your lecture about how you have seen it before.  Why don’t you just say, “Thanks for sharing;” "Have seen it before, but enjoyed it again;" or "Have seen it before and am sending it on again."  Worse yet, they suggest that they have probably seen most videos you would send, so don’t send any more videos.  Ah, we get it – we are supposed to read your mind!  And honestly, are we supposed to know not only what you watch, but what you don’t?  We are only trying to communicate something we think important to a friend or family member.  Why be chastised for doing so?  Just hit DELETE!

Email Pet Peeve #5
Email Pet Peeve #5 Love and Marriage Experts

Email Pet Peeve #5

Email Pet Peeve #5:  When you check in to see how a friend are family member are doing, they reprimand you about how they prefer the telephone, how they were out of town and don’t normally tell people where they’re going, etc.  All you wanted them to say is  “Thanks for checking on me.  I appreciate your concern.”  When they make you feel guilty by their utterances for being concerned about their welfare, they not only insult you, they make you determined to NOT check in with them again!  And just imagine if they really did have a problem and you didn’t know?

Email Pet Peeve #6
Email Pet Peeve #6 Love and Marriage Experts

Email Pet Peeve #6

Email Pet Peeve #6:  Instead of talking face to face, your friend or family member brings up serious issues through email.  Let’s face it, really serious discussions should never occur via email.  It is hard to express emotions by email.  It is really hard to see the face of someone else through email.  Moreover, it is hard to feel the pulse of someone you are not in the presence of.  For all these reasons and more, you never want your friends or family to talk about serious issues through email.  If you are dealing with a serious issue, meet in person!  At the very least, talk by phone.  But we repeat, never, ever, get engaged in a monumental discussion or conversation via email.  Email is NOT a good medium for serious discussions.

Email is a powerful medium that is subject to important limitations.  But the truth is, people make the common mistakes associated with using it and actually abuse their relationships with friends, family, and significant others.  Think about it.

By Dr. Charles and Dr. Elizabeth Schmitz
America's #1 Love and Marriage Experts

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