Is your relationship in the pits? Knowing when your relationship is dead and when it is time to get out is in your best interest. Make no mistake about it.
Here are the five warning signs of a failed relationship:
1. You don't trust him anymore.
We have found over the years that the best marriages have at their core – TRUST! If you can’t trust the one you love, you are in deep trouble. During our thousands of interviews around the world, we are continuously reminded of the centrality of trust to the most successful marital relationships. In those marriages that survive over time, they all report to us that their undying trust for each other carried them through the good times and the bad. If you have caught the man you think you are love in lies—even little lies—be very cautious. Brushing it off as no big deal can have major consequences.
2. You feel happier when he is not with you.
Just imagine, you find yourself rejoicing when the person you purport to love is NOT with you. Needless to say, this is a clear warning sign you cannot ignore. Pay close and careful attention to your feelings, as they will not, under normal circumstances, betray you.
3. When you roll over in bed at night and see his back in front of you, you are repulsed.
You are repulsed by his smell, his physical presence, and who he is as a person. These feelings are all too common in failing marriages. You should heed the warning!
4. He wants to control everything you say and do.
He does NOT respect you – as a person, as a human being, or as partner. He disrespects you at every turn. And the sad truth of all this is the following – he demonstrates that the only person’s opinion that matters to him is, HIS! Make no mistake about it, the best loving relationships are characterized by democracy in their relationship. If you are in a relationship where HE makes all of the important decisions, you are in a BAD relationship. Get smart, this guy has to go. Always remember you cannot change him!
5. It is clear that you do not really love him anymore.
You pretend he is the love of your life, but do not feel it in your heart. In fact, you find his love a burden, a negative, and exasperating! To love someone is to feel a high level of reciprocation in that relationship. When you no longer love him, does it matter whether he loves you?
In the end, there are critical signs – there are clearly stated expositions about the truth of your relationship. In the end, you need to know when your relationship is over. Heed the warnings!
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By Dr. Charles and Dr. Elizabeth Schmitz
America's #1 Love and Marriage Experts
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