Okay, let’s face it, the world today is as, former USA Secretary of State, Madeleine Albright recently said, “in a mess.” There is war in the Ukraine that might lead to a new “Cold War;” violence is breaking out all over the Middle East; America’s standing in the world has been significantly diminished; the USA economy has struggled over much of the past decade (a smaller percentage of American adults are working full time today than at anytime since the Great Depression); the Middle Class is shrinking; and the world is more dangerous than at anytime in the past 60+ years.
Frankly, the world, including the USA, has forgotten how to compromise – how to work together for the common good. Nearly three fourths of American adults feel the country is headed in the wrong direction. Our world is, indeed, “in a mess!” As you will note, there are consequences to your personal mental health and your relationships with others and certainly to your marriage. Here’s how.
The daily doses of bad news you watch on your television; the steady drumbeat of bad news in your newspaper; the bombardment of negativity on the Internet, television, and on the radio; and the constant negative exchanges you have with others on social media – much of it from your “so-called friends” (putting you down, criticizing you, making fun of you, putting you on the defensive, embarrassing you in front of others, etc.); is enough to make you want to crawl in a hole and hide!
But there is a better solution if you want to save your relationships with others, especially your husband/wife or “significant other.”
You see, getting in the doldrums – letting your psychic be impacted in negative ways by the constant negativity in the news and in social media – can begin to bring you down and affect your marriage and relationships with others in terrible and unproductive ways.
And remember this – if you spend too much of your day being told how awful everything is, it WILL affect the way you feel, the way you relate to others – especially the ones you love – and the way you love. Make no mistake about it!
So, how do you prevent and/or combat the daily bombardment of the negative things you experience? How do you keep negativity from affecting your relationships with those you love, especially your spouse? How do you “keep yourself together” in a psychological sense?
We have discovered four effective solutions based on our 33 years of research with successful marriage on all seven continents of the world. Here they are in a nutshell.