When it comes to love and marriage, there is a truism that trumps all truisms. It goes like this – it is better to walk away than to marry the wrong person. For the most part, and for some very good reasons, true love trumps everything. Love is the elixir of life. To love and to be in love is amongst the greatest triumphs of humanity. But to marry the wrong person can be devastating.
#1 Sign - You are NOT headed for marriage
Your partner does not love you as much as you love him or her. It is not enough for you to be deeply in love. Your partner must reciprocate profound love as well, before a lifetime of commitment can be made. Love isn't a one-way street. It takes the hard work of two committed people to make love last for a lifetime. Do you and your mate love each other equally?
#2 Sign - You are NOT headed for marriage
The one you think you love is not your best friend. You cannot make a lifetime commitment to someone you only love. The person you commit to marry must, first and foremost, be your best friend. Is the one you love your best friend and are you theirs?
#3 Sign - You are NOT headed for marriage
You are always thinking about what you will do if it doesn't work. Someone who wants a successful marriage cannot promise a lifetime of commitment to someone they purport to love while plotting an escape at the same time. A true commitment is unalterable and not disposable. Are you both have to be IN the relationship 100%?
#4 Sign - You are NOT headed for marriage
Your relationship is an on again off again kind of thing. If your relationship is strong at times and then you drift apart and then regenerate the passion, you need to consider walking away permanently. Great love experienced by successfully married couples comes on strong and stays strong. It is NOT an on again, off again proposition. Commitment to someone whom you love must be an everyday thing. A marriage commitment is forever. Does your love for each other get stronger every day?
To spend your life on planet Earth is a great privilege. But to do your best to make great love your reason for being on Earth is, well, the principle reason humans strive to achieve the pinnacle of love. We hope and encourage you to get it right the first time around.
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By Dr. Charles and Dr. Elizabeth Schmitz
America's #1 Love and Marriage Experts
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