I love good movies and high quality independent films.
The main reason why I moved to Los Angeles in late May of 1994 was because at the time, I wanted to become a high-ranking, powerful feature-film development executive. I had an internship in Beverly Hills at New Line Cinema film production and distribution company that exposed me to various facets of the feature-film industry.
I read dozens of spec scripts as part of my internship (a 'spec script' is a screenplay written by an up-and-coming or unknown screenwriter who is attempting to sell his work and/or get his work "optioned"; For example, if Paramount Pictures offers me a $50,000 / $300,000 option, that basically means that they will pay me $50,000 upfront just for the opportunity to have the exclusive rights to read my script for three-to-six months ... and then, if they choose to "green light" the script and have it made into a feature-film, then I would receive an additional $250,000 in compensation. If they pass on the script, I get to keep the $50,000 and try to sell it to another movie studio or production company).
My taste in movies is very eclectic. I love all genres of film: dramas, comedies, horror, suspense thrillers, biographical tales and period pieces, and action movies. For the purposes of this article, I want to offer my suggestions for films that best ask (and hopefully answer) one or more of these questions:
"How do I handle being a father for the first time?"
"How do I determine who is really my friend versus someone who just wants to take advantage of me?"
"How do I handle the process of getting older and experiencing declining health and energy?"
"How do I get away from a lifestyle of poverty and violence and attempt to improve my life?"
"How close is my bond with my closest male friends? Would I sacrifice my life in order to save theirs?"
"Will some of the best memories I cherish for the rest of my life be the times I spent on a 'road trip' with my closest male friends?"
"Do I need someone to light a fire under my butt to help me get out of a 'rut' and do what I need to do to improve my career and my finances?"
"Have I taken time out of my life to be a 'big brother' or 'mentor' to someone younger than me who needs good advice and wisdom?"
"If my best male friend does not care for my new girlfriend, should I dump her to remain friends with him? Or should I sacrifice my friendship with him in order to maintain my romantic relationship with my new girlfriend?"
"If I see that hundreds or thousands of people are at risk of being harmed, should I put my own life at risk in order to provide them with safety?"
"Which is more important: My career success and financial security? Or my sense of moral character, honesty, and integrity?"
"How do I reveal to my closest male friends that I feel depressed and lonely after breaking up with my last long-term girlfriend? How do I ask for tips on how to approach new women, initiate a conversation with them, and ask for their phone number?"
"How do I learn to stand up for myself against other guys who are trying to 'bully' me?"
"What is the key to achieving my most desired goals and objectives in life? Just how hard must I work in order to achieve them?"
"Is it better to be non-confrontation with others and do whatever the status quo is doing? Or should I be bold enough to blaze my own trail in this life, and exhibit behavior that goes against the grain of conventional wisdom?"
"How would I go about teaching my son how to develop confidence and backbone in order to be a man? What if I was put in a situation where I had to show my older brother or even my father how to be more of a man?"
"Am I a man who has truly lived up to my potential? Or am I a man who has a profound 'fear of success' that has prevented me from using my gifts, skills, and talents to the highest degree?"
"Am I a man who looks for the 'easy way' to do things? Am I afraid of complex challenges that may prevent me from achieving my desired goals and objectives? Am I afraid of failure?"
"How do I learn to avoid conflict and violence when even the police are not committed to protecting the members of the community?"
"What do I need to do to attract my first girlfriend ever? Or at minimum, get laid for the first time ever?"
"How do I go about getting a new job when I am broke and unemployed, even though I have a child to raise and attend to as a single father?"
"If I was convicted for a crime that I did commit, how would I suppress my anger and bitterness and eventually adjust to life in prison?"
"How do I find the strength to go on in life after I have seen my parents get murdered in cold blood? How do I fight violent criminals without resorting to gun violence myself?"
"How do I overcome my fears, doubts, insecurities, and cowardice to become a real man or else risk being killed by a stranger?"
"If someone from another neighborhood, city, region, or country came into my community threatening to enslave my male friends and I, and even worse, rape and sexually take advantage of our women, would I stand up for myself if it meant possibly being killed or imprisoned by these men? Or would I just give in to their demands in order to avoid being killed or put in a prison cell?"
As the #1 male Dating & Relationships columnist on The Examiner.com, I am going to share with you my choices for the films that best address these questions and themes.