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20 female movie characters who represent the type of women that men should avoid

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The Femme Fatale.

I believe we all would agree that in today's dating scene, there are good men, bad men, good women, and bad women. Many of my male readers feel like the Entertainment Industry (and more specifically, the feature-film industry) does not highlight nearly as many "bad women" characters as they do "bad men" characters.

I would partially agree with this criticism. The business-related reality is, women purchase more movie tickets than men do on a yearly basis. The vast majority of feature films that went on to become a major success at the box office are usually those that either a) attracted both men and women to the movie theater, or at minimum, b) attracted a high number of women alone (or maybe single moms and their children).

I have met a number of men in my life that have confessed to only watching an average of five-to-ten films per year at the movie theater (as opposed to a self-proclaimed 'movie buff' like me who probably watches an average of twenty-five to forty films per year at least once at the movie theater). So, bottom line, you could argue that Hollywood is not stupid. They do not want to "bite the hand that feeds them," so therefore, they are not going to produce too many films that have the main female character as 'the bad guy' while the main male character is the 'naive helpless victim.'

A "Femme Fatale" is a common term for a female movie character who uses her looks, charm, and sex appeal in order to manipulate naive and horny men into performing various financial and non-financial favors for them. Sometimes, it might be a favor as extreme as, "I want you to murder my cheating husband for me," while other times the fictional female character might just want to use a man to improve her overall quality of life (e.g., get the man to buy her a better car, a better house, more expensive clothes, or help her land a higher salaried job).

In my fourth book entitled The Possibility of Sex: How Naive and Lustful Men are Manipulated by Women Regularly, I describe at least six types of women that men should generally avoid. Those women are:

- Timewasters (a woman who will initially give a man the misleading impression that she has some degree of romantic and/or sexual interest in him, but in reality, she is just looking for flattering attention, entertaining platonic companionship, financial and non-financial 'favors,' or a "male girlfriend" to gossip with and vent with)

- Gold Diggers / Social Climbers (a woman who will date a man, or even marry a man, more so because of his high degree of career success, social status, and wealth than because of a genuine romantic interest in the guy)

- Man Thieves (a woman who is trying their best to "steal a man away" from his current wife or girlfriend)

- Drama Queens (a woman who, at minimum, is extremely jealous, argumentative, and hard to get along with, and at maximum, suffers from some sort of personality disorder or mental illness)

- Misandrists (a 'misandrist' is a woman who interacts with men with a high degree of hatred toward them, resentment toward them, disdain for them, and/or a general lack of respect for them)

- Liars / Cheaters / Adulteresses (pretty self-explanatory)

The problem with men, is that many of them are so hung up on women's level of physical attractiveness, and so weak to a woman with an above average degree of sex appeal, that we do not tend to pay attention to the flaws and weaknesses of a woman's character, integrity, and overall personality usually until after we have already invested a significant amount of time, effort, money, or emotions.

There are a lot of films that I may have overlooked or just did not tickle my fancy, so I am sure that some men and women will write me and say, "Hey Alan! You forgot to mention [insert name of actress here] who played the character of [insert the deceitful and/or manipulative character's name in the film here] in the movie [insert film title here]!! She was really something else!!"

Of the films I have seen and selected, I tried to identify at least three women who fall into one or more of the six categories mentioned above that are highlighted in my book, The Possibility of Sex. I have probably met at least two or three women in real life who exhibited behavior that was very similar to the behavior of these fictional female characters included in my list.

If you totally agree with my choices ... write me and let me know! If you have harsh criticisms and totally disagree with some of my choices ... write and let me know! I might feature your feedback in a future article (but I would not use your real name, unless you specifically ask me to).

So, without further ado, I present to you my list of 20 fictional female characters in movies that represent the type of women that you want to avoid pursuing as a a) wife, b) long-term girlfriend, or c) casual lover. Start viewing the list of characters by CLICKING HERE.

Warning: Many of the character descriptions include storyline and plot "spoilers" for those who have not viewed these films; Avoid reading the full description if you see a "Spoiler" notation included if you want to watch the film first

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Alan Roger Currie is the author of a number of books, including Mode One: Let the Women Know What You're REALLY Thinking and Oooooh . . . Say it Again: Mastering the Fine Art of Verbal Seduction and Aural Sex. Currie's latest eBook, The Possibility of Sex: How Naive and Lustful Men are Manipulated by Women Regularly is also available exclusively on Amazon.com in their Kindle format. You can also download a copy of Currie's eBook on your iPhone, Android Smartphone, or other Smartphone.

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#20 - Jurnee Smollett-Bell as "Judith" in "Temptation: Confessions of a Marriage Counselor" (2013)
#20 - Jurnee Smollett-Bell as "Judith" in "Temptation: Confessions of a Marriage Counselor" (2013) Google Images

#20 - Jurnee Smollett-Bell as "Judith" in "Temptation: Confessions of a Marriage Counselor" (2013)

General premise of the movie:

An ambitious married woman initially resists the sexual advances of a successful multimillionaire, but later gives in to his charm and persistence, and her extramarital affair forever alters her personal and professsional life

Which of the six categories of 'women to avoid' does this female movie character fall into?  Liar / Cheater / Adulteress

IMDb.com page for Temptation: Confessions of a Marriage Counselor

Commentary about this film and/or particular character:  There used to be a time that when you heard the term "cheater," the label was usually being associated with a man with promiscuous tendencies.  In the 21st Century, this is no longer the case.  In today's society, many publications have reported that married women cheat on their husbands just as much if not more than married men cheat on their wives.

Judith (Actress Jurnee Smollett-Bell) has a great husband (Actor Lance Gross) who loves her to death, but sadly, Judith slowly but surely gives in to the bold sexual advances of a wealthy businessman named Harley (Actor Robbie Jones) who has all of the trappings of career success and wealth, and he also knows how to handle his business and satisfy women in bed.

***PLOT SPOILER BELOW***

The saddest thing about the story is not only does she totally mess over her loyal and loving husband, but she ends up contracting the HIV virus from Harley, who unbeknownst to her, is HIV-positive.

Unlike some of the other female movie characters featured in this list, Judith was not really "evil" or "blatantly manipulative."  Her crime was that she was young, naive, and weak in response to the seductive charms of a handsome, highly manipulative womanizer.

This film is a cautionary tale for married women who might think that the "grass is greener" in another man's yard.

#19 - Margarita Levieva as "Heather" in "Spread" (2009)
#19 - Margarita Levieva as "Heather" in "Spread" (2009) Google Images

#19 - Margarita Levieva as "Heather" in "Spread" (2009)

General premise of the movie:

A handsome, womanizing bachelor who has a history of using women for their money and material possessions meets a waitress who he falls in love with, but she is resistant to become his long-term girlfriend because he is frequently broke and unemployed

Which of the six categories of 'women to avoid' does this female movie character fall into?  Gold Digger / Social Climber

IMDb.com page for Spread

Commentary about this film and/or particular character:  Margarita Levieva's character of "Heather" is, in some ways, similar to Robin Given's character of Jacqueline in the 1992 romantic comedy Boomerang starring comedian Eddie Murphy.  

There is a long-standing belief that all men who are prolific womanizers will meet at least one woman who they will fall hard for, but that woman will usually end up manipulating them or breaking their heart.  In this film, Heather is that woman.

***PLOT SPOILER BELOW***

Heather does not really reveal her true character until almost the very end of the movie.  In a nutshell, Ashton Kutcher's character of Nikki is a smooth, charming womanizer who usually hooks up with middle aged women who are wealthy and horny for the sexual companionship of a young male with an athletic physique.  If it were not for Nikki's looks and seductive charm with women, he would probably be homeless.

When Nikki meets Heather, he is immediately smitten, but the reality is, Heather is basically a female version of Nikki; she typically dates older men who spoil her with material gifts and financial favors.

At the end of the movie, Nikki is willing to give up his womanizing ways and purchases an engagement ring for Heather, only for Heather to break his heart by telling him that she is about to marry an older, wealthy man (who she is not even genuinely in love with) because she feels Nikki does not have enough to offer her in terms of career success and financial stability.

Some studios would have ruined this film by creating a "love conquers all, and everyone lives happily ever after" type ending.  I very much loved the fact that this underrated romantic drama had a 'real' ending to it, because the reality is, even if a woman is not really "materialistic," she still wants a man who can at least pay his own bills.

 

#18 - Rooney Mara as "Emily" in "Side Effects" (2013)
#18 - Rooney Mara as "Emily" in "Side Effects" (2013) Google Images

#18 - Rooney Mara as "Emily" in "Side Effects" (2013)

General premise of the movie:

A woman with a documented history of mental illness experiences many detrimental "side effects" from a prescribed drug she has been taking, and accidentally murders her husband during an episode of sleepwalking, which is one of the reported side effects of her drug

Which of the six categories of 'women to avoid' does this female movie character fall into?  1) Gold Digger / Social Climber 2) Misandrist

IMDb.com page for Side Effects

Commentary about this film and/or particular character:  This is one of those films that has a most interesting "twist" to the storyline.

***PLOT SPOILER BELOW***

On the surface, Emily (Actress Rooney Mara) appears to be a woman who suffers from a high degree of mental illness problems, and consequently, she is prescribed a number of medications to help keep her mentally and emotionally stable.  One particular drug is given to her by new psychiatrist, Dr. Banks (Actor Jude Law), and she later claims that the drug causes her to "sleepwalk," and during one episode of sleepwalking, she ends up murdering her husband.

In reality, Emily is frustrated that her husband no longer has the wealth and social status that he used to, because he got busted for insider trading and had to go to prison for a number of years.

After her husband (Actor Channing Tatum) gets released from prison, Emily no longer is interested in being married to him because he no longer earns the seven figure salary that he used to.  So, Emily - with the help of her (bisexual or lesbian) lover and former psychiatrist (Actress Catherine Zeta Jones) - decides to kill her husband and collect on his insurance policy.

If any naive man reading this believes that all women date and marry men because of "true love," then you need to wake up, and wake up quick.  There are many manipulative women who do not love their husbands AT ALL, and are only with them because of their husband's level of career success, wealth, and social status.

Not only is Emily a gold digger and a status seeker, but the story implies that she is not even attracted to men romantically or sexually.  At maximum, she is a lesbian, and at minimum, she is bisexual.  In the same manner that many gay men will pretend to be heterosexual and get married to a woman for the sake of public appearances and the pursuit of their ambitions, there are many lesbian women who do the same thing with men.

If you are a man, and women ignored you before you got that new "great job" and that big fancy house, but now all of the sudden those same women are 'crazy over you' because you just purchased a brand new convertible Porsche, be afraid.  Be very afraid.

#17 - Kerry Washington as "Nikki" in "I Think I Love My Wife" (2007)
#17 - Kerry Washington as "Nikki" in "I Think I Love My Wife" (2007) Google Images

#17 - Kerry Washington as "Nikki" in "I Think I Love My Wife" (2007)

General premise of the movie:

A Manhattan businessman who is frustrated that his wife rarely if ever seems to be in the mood for sex finds himself tempted to cheat on her when he crosses paths with the former mistress of one of his best friends

Which of the six categories of 'women to avoid' does this female movie character fall into?  Man Thief

IMDb.com page for I Think I Love My Wife

Commentary about this film and/or particular character:  There have been many married men who argue that once you tie the knot with a woman, the sex decreases instead of increases.  This romantic comedy featuring comedian Chris Rock presents an example of this phenomenon.

Rock plays Richard Cooper, and Richard's wife (Actress Gina Torres) is so busy raising their children and attending to the everyday responsibilities and obligations of family life, that she unintentionally finds herself putting sex with her husband on the back burner as a low priority.

Enter the character of Nikki Tru (Actress Kerry Washington).  Nikki is the former mistress of one Richard's best friends, and soon Nikki is flirting with Richard and tempting him to cheat on his wife with her.  Most of the film centers on Richard trying to maintain the self-discipline not to cheat on his wife, because he knows he has a good wife and great family at home.  Nikki does not make things easy though.

It is a known fact that many women tend to find married men much more appealing than bachelors.  Many women in society specifically go after married men, and tempt them with frequent opportunities for wild, kinky sex.   Some men stay strong and resist the charms of a seductress, but many men give in.

You never want to sacrifice a good wife for a sexy piece of ass.  Even if that piece of ass looks like popular Actress Kerry Washington of Scandal fame.  Be strong fellas.

#16 - Tasha Smith as "Angela" in "Why Did I Get Married?" (2007) and "Why Did I Get Married Too?" (2010)
#16 - Tasha Smith as "Angela" in "Why Did I Get Married?" (2007) and "Why Did I Get Married Too?" (2010) Google Images

#16 - Tasha Smith as "Angela" in "Why Did I Get Married?" (2007) and "Why Did I Get Married Too?" (2010)

General premise of the movie(s):

A group of middle class friends get together for a much needed vacation, but the men and women involved end up revealing the flaws and weaknesses in their respective relationships and marriages

Which of the six categories of 'women to avoid' does this female movie character fall into?  Drama Queen

IMDb.com page for Why Did I Get Married?

IMDb.com page for Why Did I Get Married Too?

Commentary about these films and/or this particular character:  If any character could be arguably voted the "funniest" of the female characters included in this list, it would be Actress Tasha Smith's portrayal of Angela in Tyler Perry's Why Did I Get Married? and the sequel, Why Did I Get Married Too?

Angela is a classic example of a woman who is extremely jealous, possessive, argumentative, and controlling.  Her husband, Marcus (Actor Michael Jai White) tries his best to be patient with her and tolerant of her non-stop nagging, but it periodically wears on him.

In real life, a wife or girlfriend who exhibits behavior like Angela is anything but funny.  I have known many African-American men who have stopped dating African-American women altogether because they accused many of them of being a combination of too argumentative, too controlling, and too disrespectful.

The reality is, this is nowhere near an exclusively African-American problem.  As a professional Dating Coach, I have met Asian men, Caucasian men, and Hispanic men who also accuse women of their same race and ethnicity of being annoying nags and drama queens.

At minimum, women like this are usually a combination of spoiled and egotistically insecure, and at maximum, many of the "drama queen" types suffer from either a "personality disorder" (such as histrionic personality disorder) or some other form of mental illness.

If you, as a man, meet a woman who displays a number of signs of being a potential drama queen prior to her becoming your long-term girlfriend or wife, I would think twice about continuing with a relationship with that particular woman.  Your marriage will go from 'heaven' to 'hell' very quickly.

#15 - Gwyneth Paltrow as "Michelle" in "Two Lovers" (2008)
#15 - Gwyneth Paltrow as "Michelle" in "Two Lovers" (2008) Google Images

#15 - Gwyneth Paltrow as "Michelle" in "Two Lovers" (2008)

General premise of the movie:

A Brooklyn bachelor is being persuaded by his parents to marry the daughter of his father's business associate, but the problem is that the bachelor is not really attracted to the woman.  Later, he meets a female neighbor who he finds himself very attracted to

Which of the six categories of 'women to avoid' does this female movie character fall into?  Timewaster

IMDb.com page for Two Lovers

Commentary about this film and/or particular character:  If you have read any of my books, you know that I generally divide women into four categories:

  • Reciprocators
  • Rejecters
  • Pretenders
  • Timewasters

In Part One of my fourth book, The Possibility of Sex: How Naive and Lustful Men are Manipulated by Women Regularly, I describe four sub-categories of 'Timewaster' types that I believe men should avoid socializing with on a regular or semi-regular basis.

In a nutshell, a 'Timewaster' is a woman who never makes it clear to a man that she is interested in sharing his company in a romantic and/or sexual manner ... but at the same time ... she never makes it specifically clear that she is not interested in dating a man or engaging in casual sex with that man either.

Timewaster types love to keep their interest in a man (or lack thereof) very vague and ambiguous.  Actress Gwyneth Paltrow's character of Michelle is a woman who falls into this category.

***PLOT SPOILER BELOW***

Leonard (Actor Joaquin Phoenix) is being pressured by his parents to get engaged to a woman who is the daughter of his father's friend and business associate.  The problem is, Leonard only has a lukewarm interest in this woman.

After moving into a place of his own, he soon befriends an attractive neighbor of his named Michelle (Paltrow).  The two mainly operate as just "friends" and "neighbors," but soon Leonard finds himself falling in love with Michelle.

The challenge for Leonard is that Michelle is hung up on a married guy who keeps promising her that he is going to leave his wife for her, but he never does.  Late in the movie, Michelle slowly but surely finds herself becoming more and more attracted to Leonard, but just when Leonard is about to propose marriage to Michelle, she informs Leonard that the married guy has (once again) promised to leave his wife, so she breaks Leonard's heart and leaves for yet another visit with her married lover.

Leonard then turns his attention back to Sandra (the woman who his parents want him to marry), and he goes ahead and decides to continue the relationship with her.

I cannot tell you how many times I have seen this type of scenario play out in real life.  Man "A" is attracted to Woman "A," but Woman "A" is more attracted to Man "B" and just strings Man "A" along until Man "B" makes himself available.  Meanwhile, Man "A" will have another woman (Woman "B") who is crazy over him, but he is not nearly as interested in Woman "B" as he is in Woman "A."

Those scenarios never play out well.   Never, ever become a woman's "rebound guy," especially if that woman is withholding sex from you and generally causing you to waste time as well as your emotional investment..

#14 - Theresa Russell as "Catharine" in "Black Widow" (1989)
#14 - Theresa Russell as "Catharine" in "Black Widow" (1989) Google Images

#14 - Theresa Russell as "Catharine" in "Black Widow" (1989)

General premise of the movie:

A wealthy widow is being pursued by an FBI investigator due to the fact that all of her previous husbands ended up dying in some mysterious fashion while she collected a portion of each dead husband's wealth and possessions

Which of the six categories of 'women to avoid' does this female movie character fall into?  1) Gold Digger / Social Climber  2) Misandrist

IMDb.com page for Black Widow

Commentary about this film and/or particular character:  If you go back and read my commentary for my #18 choice (Rooney Mara as "Emily" in Side Effects), then take the character of Emily and multiply her disdain for men and manipulative tendencies times ten, and you will have Actress Theresa Russell's character of Catharine in this film.

The story implies that Catharine does not even like men, and that she is actually a lesbian.  Each of her previous husbands has been either poisoned, or murdered in some type of other "hard-to-detect" manner.

Most people would agree that being wealthy is always better than being poor, but if there is at least one minor "benefit" to a man being poor is that he never has to worry about attracting gold digger types or worry about a wife of his trying to murder him so that she can live off of his wealth and/or his insurance policy.

#13 - Anne Hathaway as "Allison" in "Havoc" (2005)
#13 - Anne Hathaway as "Allison" in "Havoc" (2005) Google Images

#13 - Anne Hathaway as "Allison" in "Havoc" (2005)

General premise of the movie:

A group of high school students from Pacific Palisades, an affluent neighborhood in the Los Angeles area, take a joy ride to Hollywood and soon end up in East L.A. where they encounter some members of a hardcore Latin street gang

Which of the six categories of 'women to avoid' does this female movie character fall into?  Timewaster

IMDb.com page for Havoc

Commentary about this film and/or particular character:  This film had some minor "controversy" surrounding it, because two of the actresses from the film - Anne Hathaway and Bijou Phillips - refused to promote the film due to the fact that the studio (New Line Cinema) took away "final cut editing" privileges from the film's director, Barbara Kopple.

The subject of date-rape always has been, and always will be a delicate issue to discuss.  For women, the prevailing attitude is "no means no," even if their "no" comes after intercourse has been initiated.  Many men have criticized women who go back-and-forth between an enthusiastic 'yes, let's have sex' to a stern, 'no, I changed my mind ... I now do not want to have sex.'

***PLOT SPOILER BELOW***

Have you ever met middle class teenagers who THINK that they are "hip" and "streetwise?"  If so, this would describe Allison, Emily, and their high school crew.  

Within the high school atmosphere of Pacific Palisades - a very affluent neighborhood in Los Angeles near Malibu and Brentwood - these friends actually believe they are "street" because they listen to gangsta rap music and love to cause trouble at school.

One weekend, while joy riding down Hollywood Boulevard, they soon find themselves on the outskirts of the mean streets of East L.A., and they encounter some true street Latin gangster types.

The Latin gangsters end up punking the upper middle class white boys, and interesting enough, this ends up turning on Allison (Hathaway) and Emily (Phillips).  They say, many women love the "bad boy" types, and this film co-signs with that belief in a big way.

Next thing you know, Allison and Emily are repeatedly making visits to East L.A. to hang out with a few gangsters, but the problem is, the gangsters are ready to get into the girls' pants, but the girls are reluctant to "go all the way" with them.

One of the gangsters (Actor Freddy Rodriguez) eventually lets the girls know, "Either have sex with us, or leave us alone."  The girls are so intrigued and fascinated with these roughneck types that one night, they more or less give the signal that they are finally down to have intercourse.

Initially both girls are into it, but soon after Allison allows herself to get hot and bothered while engaging in foreplay, she changes her mind minutes later and bows out of the bedroom action.  Even though Allison has exited the bedroom, her friend Emily is still in the room on the verge of having sex with one of the gangsters.

Emily is down for one-on-one sex, but when two other gangsters try to abruptly join in on the action (i.e., creating what is known as "running a train" or "gang bang" scenario), she has a very adverse reaction to it, which causes Allison to come back into the room and take her close friend out of an undesirable situation.

Later, instead of just leaving the incident as a "live and learn" lesson, Emily decides to accuse the gangsters of date rape, and threatens to file formal changes with the police.  Allison tries to talk her out of it, but Emily is sticking to her story.

My thoughts?  If you cannot stand the 'heat,' do not allow yourself to step foot in the kitchen.  Does any woman "deserve" to be raped or date raped?  Hell no.  I would never remotely suggest such a thing.

That being said though, I think all women should make it clear to men if they are indeed interested in having sex, and what type of sex they are down for.  If the women have ANY DOUBTS, then they should avoid sex altogether.  Simple as that.

In my second book, Upfront and Straightforward: Let the Manipulative Game Players Know What You're REALLY Thinking, I quote some lyrics from the late, great rapper Tupac Shakur (a.k.a. "2Pac") and his song, I Get Around; In the song, at one point he says, "There's a lot of real G's doin' time ... because a groupie hid the truth and told a lie"  What he is referring to is false or invalid date-rape charges toward men.

I believe all men should avoid interacting with women who come across as "c*ck teasers" or who are wishy-washy with their sexual desires and interests.  When it comes to (casual) sex, men should only interact with women who are extremely enthusiastic about having sex with them.  Otherwise, leave the women alone.  Games are for kids.
 

#12 - Demi Moore as "Meredith" in "Disclosure" (1994)
#12 - Demi Moore as "Meredith" in "Disclosure" (1994) Google Images

#12 - Demi Moore as "Meredith" in "Disclosure" (1994)

General premise of the movie:

A married computer expert crosses paths with his ex-girlfriend, who ends up aggressively trying to have sex with him; after he rebuffs his former lover's advances, she sues him and his company for sexual harassment

Which of the six categories of 'women to avoid' does this female movie character fall into?  Man Thief

IMDb.com page for Disclosure

Commentary about this film and/or particular character:  If you are a man reading this, have you ever had a woman come on to you sexually ... only to later give her friends or relatives the impression that it was you who aggressively came on to her?

A good a number of men (including myself) have experienced this scenario with at least a handful of women in their lives.  Later, it becomes an issue of "your word versus her word" (unless the interaction was audiotaped, videotaped, or witnessed by another human being).

Actress Demi Moore's character of Meredith in this film is a woman who is very career driven, and not afraid to speak her mind.  When it comes to connecting with men, she makes it clear that she is not one to stand on the sidelines waiting to be "chosen" by a man of interest.  Her attitude is, "If I see a man I want to have sex with, I am going to pursue him and get him to have sex with me."

This is exactly what she does with her ex-boyfriend Tom (Actor Michael Douglas).  One evening, after the workday has concluded, Meredith essentially attempts to date-rape Tom, and for a moment - similar to Anne Hathaway's character of 'Allison' in Havoc - he gives in.  Minutes later, he regains his sense of self-control, and rebuffs Meredith's advances.

Bitter because she was rejected, Meredith later accuses Tom of sexual harassment and sues him and his company.  Then the remainder of the story unfolds from there.

The reality is, many women in today's society are just as sexually aggressive, if not MORE aggressive, than many men are.  In the last ten years or so, there have been increasing incidents of women actually raping men.

More organizations need to realize that true "harassment" is representative of repeated episodes of unwanted advances ... not just one.  That applies to men and women.

#11 - Sanaa Lathan as "Andrea" in "The Family That Preys" (2008)
#11 - Sanaa Lathan as "Andrea" in "The Family That Preys" (2008) Google Images

#11 - Sanaa Lathan as "Andrea" in "The Family That Preys" (2008)

General premise of the movie:

A hard working mother tries to work through some challenges and episodes of adversity in both her personal and professional life

Which of the six categories of 'women to avoid' does this female movie character fall into?  Liar / Cheater / Adulteress

IMDb.com page for The Family That Preys

Commentary about this film and/or particular character:  There was a time when I actually expressed criticisms toward Writer-Director Tyler Perry, because I felt like Perry was always creating male characters with a big bag full of personality issues and character flaws.

Well, with characters like Judith in Temptation and Andrea in The Family That Preys (as well as Tasha Smith's character of Jennifer in Daddy's Little Girls), Perry has rendered my initial criticism an invalid one.

Andrea (Actress Sanaa Lathan) is a piece of work, to say the least.  She is married to a good man (Actor Rockmond Dunbar), but not only is she cheating on her husband with her boss (Actor Cole Hauser), but her son's father is her boss - not her husband.  Enough said.

Even Andrea's own mother (Actress Alfre Woodard) does not approve of the manner in which Andrea just totally disrespects and dogs out her husband.

Lesson learned? Never enter into a long-term relationship with a woman who has not proven to you that she has genuine love for you, and totally respects you as a man.

#10 - Linda Fiorentino as "Bridget" in "The Last Seduction" (1994)
#10 - Linda Fiorentino as "Bridget" in "The Last Seduction" (1994) Google Images

#10 - Linda Fiorentino as "Bridget" in "The Last Seduction" (1994)

General premise of the movie:

A married woman with manipulative tendencies talks her physician husband into selling medicinal cocaine to some drug dealers, and then later takes off with the profits from the sale; she then moves to a new town and meets a new naive male target to help her with another manipulative scheme of hers

Which of the six categories of 'women to avoid' does this female movie character fall into?  1) Liar / Cheater / Adulteress 2) Misandrist

IMDb.com page for The Last Seduction

Commentary about this film and/or particular character:  Actress Linda Fiorentino's character of Bridget is somewhat similar to my #18 choice of Emily from Side Effects and my #14 choice of Catharine from Black Widow.

The main difference between Bridget and those two female characters is that Bridget does not seem to have lesbian or bisexual tendencies like Emily and Catharine.   Bridget loves to manipulate men for her own self-serving motivations.

As already alluded to in the intro to this list, the reason why many women seem to always easily have their way with unsuspecting men is because most men are visual creatures, and place a high degree of emphasis on a pretty face, a cute smile, and a shapely figure.

If a satanic demon from Hell were to present themself to human males as a gorgeous woman who oozed with sex appeal, that demon would be able to wreak havoc on society simply because of how many single heterosexual men have been known to quickly fall under the spell of an attractive, seductive woman.

The character of Bridget in this film was as close to a satanic demon as you will ever see portrayed in movies.

#9 - Diane Franklin as "Karen" in "The Last American Virgin" (1982)
#9 - Diane Franklin as "Karen" in "The Last American Virgin" (1982) Google Images

#9 - Diane Franklin as "Karen" in "The Last American Virgin" (1982)

General premise of the movie:

A group of high school boys meet up with some high school girls at a party, and one of the boys ends up having sex with one of the girls; Later, the girl becomes pregnant, but chooses to have an abortion, and she is supported and consoled by one of the baby's father's best friends who has fallen in love with her

Which of the six categories of 'women to avoid' does this female movie character fall into?  Timewaster

IMDb.com page for The Last American Virgin

Commentary about this film and/or particular character:  The female character from this film is very similar to my #15 choice of Michelle from Two Lovers.  

Many naive men think if they come across as "nice," "sweet," "considerate," and empathetic to a woman's problems, disappointments, and frustrations (with other men), that the woman will reward them with romantic or sexual companionship.

Wrong.

Karen (Actress Diane Franklin) is a "good girl" in public, but behind closed doors, she has a very uninhibited and even promiscuous side to her.  At a party, she cheats on her boyfriend with a new acquaintance named Rick (Actor Steve Antin) and the two have sex.

Later, once she gets pregnant with Rick's baby, Rick disses her and pretty much ignores her.  Rick even tries to claim that he is not sure that the baby is even his.

Enter Gary (Actor Lawrence Monoson) a.k.a. "Captain Save-a-Ho," who is one of Rick's best friends.  He feels sorry for Karen, and Karen begins to use Gary as a shoulder to cry on and an empathetic listening ear.

Soon, Gary finds himself falling in love with Karen, and even gathers up enough money to help Karen go through with her desired abortion.

***PLOT SPOILER BELOW***

The end of the film is not surprising, but if you have any empathy for "the nice guy who gets dogged out in favor of the bad boy," the end of this film will just break your heart.

Even though Rick acted like a total jerk toward Karen once she got pregnant, at the end of the movie, Karen is back with Rick, much to the shock and profound disappointment to Gary.  Just the look on Gary's face at the end of the movie leaves you almost feeling his pain.

As mentioned before, I personally love endings like this.  If she would have ended up with Gary for another "happily ever after" type Hollywood ending, I would have harshly criticized the producers of this film.  But, to their credit, they kept it real.  

In real life, the proverbial "nice guy / sweet male friend" usually gets dogged out.  Women love those types of men as "play brothers" and "male girlfriends," but not as boyfriends or casual lovers.  If you believe otherwise, you will have some woman break your heart and wake you up from your delusional fantasy world.

#8 [tie] - Sarah Michelle Gellar as "Kathryn" in "Cruel Intentions" (1999) and Glenn Close as "Isabelle" in "Dangerous Liaisons" (1988)
#8 [tie] - Sarah Michelle Gellar as "Kathryn" in "Cruel Intentions" (1999) and Glenn Close as "Isabelle" in "Dangerous Liaisons" (1988) Google Images

#8 [tie] - Sarah Michelle Gellar as "Kathryn" in "Cruel Intentions" (1999) and Glenn Close as "Isabelle" in "Dangerous Liaisons" (1988)

General premise of each movie:

In both films, a master manipulator of both men and women challenges a man to prove to them that he can seduce a woman and then break her heart, and if he does so, he will be rewarded with the manipulator's sexual companionship

Which of the six categories of 'women to avoid' do these female movie characters fall into?  Timewaster

IMDb.com page for Cruel Intentions

IMDb.com page for Dangerous Liaisons

Commentary about these films and/or these particular characters:  Cruel Intentions and Dangerous Liaisons are essentially the same film.  Cruel Intentions is simply an updated, 20th Century version of the 18th Century-based Dangerous Liaisons.

In both films, you have a woman who is a master manipulator (Actress Sarah Michelle Gellar as "Kathryn Merteuil" in Cruel Intentions and Actress Glenn Close as "Marquise Isabelle de Merteuil" in Dangerous Liaisons) who has a man in their life that wants to have sex with them really, really, really badly.

What happens in both films is the same:  The manipulative woman challenges the man who is horny for them to seduce an unsuspecting 'good girl' type woman (preferably a virgin) into having sex with them, get the woman to fall in love with them, and then abruptly break their heart.  If the man accomplishes this challenge, his reward is that he gets to have sex with the manipulator.

***PLOT SPOILER BELOW***

As you can predict, in both films, the guy does accomplish the challenge presented to him, but in both films, the man (Actor Ryan Phillipe in Cruel Intentions and Actor John Malkovich in Dangerous Liaisons) ends up regretting breaking the heart of a woman who had truly fallen in love with them.

To add insult to injury, the manipulative woman in both scenarios does not satisfy the men with the initially agreed upon 'reward' (that they would get to sleep with her).

What this movie proves is that some women (and men) tend to engage in manipulative head games with others, and toy with other people's emotions, simply because they are bored and want to entertain themselves.

Every man loves sex to one degree or another, but a man should never allow himself to want to have sex with a woman so badly that he would allow a woman to propose a "If you do this for me, I will have sex with you" scenario to him.  Either a woman wants to have sex with you ... or she does not.  There is no "in-between."

If a woman is not 100% interested in having sex with you, leave her alone.  Immediately.

#7 - Julia Roberts as "Anna" in "Closer" (2004)
#7 - Julia Roberts as "Anna" in "Closer" (2004) Google Images

#7 - Julia Roberts as "Anna" in "Closer" (2004)

General premise of the movie:

One man is attracted to two women: his new girlfriend and the wife of another man; the man eventually has sex with the married woman, who ends confessing her infidelity to her husband which severely throws him for a loop

Which of the six categories of 'women to avoid' does this female movie character fall into?  Liar / Cheater / Adulteress 

IMDb.com page for Closer

Commentary about this film and/or particular character:  I would rank Closer as one of the best, most realistic romantic dramas that I have ever seen in my life.  The scene where Anna (Actress Julia Roberts) confesses to her husband Larry (Actor Clive Owen) that she has cheated on him with Dan (Actor Jude Law) is worth watching the film alone.

We all have seen films where a woman was left broken hearted because her husband or boyfriend cheated on them, but they do not produce too many films that display the raw emotion of a man who feels betrayed and humiliated.

Normally, Actress Julia Roberts chooses to play characters that you cannot help but to love and adore, but in this film, you will find yourself despising her character for breaking her husband's heart.  At one point, even the character herself says, "I am disgusting."

Actor Clive Owen was actually nominated for an Oscar for his portrayal of Larry, and he won a Golden Globe award for the same role.  After viewing this film, you will clearly see why he deserved the accolades he received.

#6 - Glenn Close as "Alex" in "Fatal Attraction" (1987)
#6 - Glenn Close as "Alex" in "Fatal Attraction" (1987) Google Images

#6 - Glenn Close as "Alex" in "Fatal Attraction" (1987)

General premise of the movie:

A married men gives in to the temptation of a casual weekend fling with a woman who, unbeknownst to him, suffers from Borderline Personality Disorder, and when he tries to break things off with her, she informs him that she is pregnant and begins stalking him

Which of the six categories of 'women to avoid' does this female movie character fall into?  1) Man Thief  2) Drama Queen

IMDb.com page for Fatal Attraction

Commentary about this film and/or particular character:  Most of the female movie characters who I have selected for this list would represent the types of women that men should avoid marrying or maintaining as a long-term girlfriend.

The character of Alex Forrest (played extraordinarily well by talented actress Glenn Close) would be a prime example of why you should spend time getting to better know a woman's personality and emotional disposition even before you engage in a casual one-night stand or weekend fling.  To put it rather bluntly, Alex was one crazy ass bitch.

When a woman suffers from some degree of mental illness or suffers from the negative effects of a diagnosed personality disorder, a man will usually not be able to detect this within the first 24-72 hours after meeting that woman.  The symptoms of such ailments usually do not reveal themselves until weeks, months, or sometimes years later.

As a friend once told me, "If people call you crazy ... and you are consciously aware of the fact that you are crazy .... then nine times out of ten, you are probably not crazy.  Truly crazy people do not fully realize that they are crazy. And that is what makes them so scary."

This film acts as a cautionary tale for men - and particularly married men - who are tempted to cheat on their wives for one night or one weekend, believing that they can just sweep the one-time tryst under the rug.  That is what Dan (Actor Michael Douglas) thought he could do, and boy oh boy was he wrong.

#5 - Sharon Stone as "Ginger" in "Casino" (1995)
#5 - Sharon Stone as "Ginger" in "Casino" (1995) Google Images

#5 - Sharon Stone as "Ginger" in "Casino" (1995)

General premise of the movie:

A woman married to a mobster and casino owner causes drama and ill feelings between her husband and his best friend and business partner

Which of the six categories of 'women to avoid' does this female movie character fall into?  1) Liar / Cheater / Adulteress  2) Drama Queen

IMDb.com page for Casino

Commentary about this film and/or particular character:  Cheating and adultery is wrong any way you examine it.  That being said, it is one thing for a woman to cheat on her boyfriend or husband with a man who is not acquainted with her companion, but it is a totally different animal when a woman is cheating on her boyfriend or husband with her spouse or companion's brother, best friend, or other close male acquaintance (The 1999 romantic comedy, The Best Man with actors Morris Chestnut and Taye Diggs dealt with this theme).

Actress Sharon Stone plays Ginger, and Ginger almost makes my #11 choice (Andrea from The Family That Preys) look like a Girl Scout.  Ginger is married to Sam (Actor Robert DeNiro), but she is still hung up on her former pimp Lester (Actor James Wood) as well as engaging in an extramarital affair with her husband's best friend and business partner Nicky (Actor Joe Pesci).

At one point in the film, Ginger even goes as far as to tie up her own daughter to her bed so that she can go out partying.  

The reoccurring message of many of these films and characters?  Just because a woman has the looks of a "trophy wife," and the sex appeal of a seasoned porn star, does not mean you should ignore the wide array of flaws and weaknesses in that woman's personality, character, integrity, and overall behavior.   As that woman's husband or boyfriend, you will surely regret it in the long run.

#4 - Jessica Walter as "Evelyn" in "Play Misty for Me" (1971)
#4 - Jessica Walter as "Evelyn" in "Play Misty for Me" (1971) Google Images

#4 - Jessica Walter as "Evelyn" in "Play Misty for Me" (1971)

General premise of the movie:

A popular radio disc jockey in California engages in what he thinks will be just another one-night stand with one of his radio show groupies, but this particular woman reveals herself to be emotionally unstable and refuses to leave him alone

Which of the six categories of 'women to avoid' does this female movie character fall into?  1) Drama Queen  2) Man Thief

IMDb.com page for Play Misty for Me

Commentary about this film and/or particular character:  This film, and the film Fatal Attraction have almost the same exact story plots.  It was even rumored that the producers for Fatal Attraction got the idea for their film from watching Play Misty for Me.

The one major difference between the two films is that the male protagonist in Fatal Attraction is married, and initially very reluctant to cheat on his wife.  In Play Misty for Me, Dave (Actor Clint Eastwood) is a bachelor who has an on-again, off-again relationship with his steady girlfriend (Actress Donna Mills).

Evelyn (played brilliantly by Actress Jessica Walter) is a fan of Dave's popular radio show, and ends up crossing paths with him at a local bar.  Dave realizes that she is a 'groupie' of his, and he decides to take advantage of the fact that she is fascinated with him, and he decides to have sex with her with no hesitation.

One of the reasons why I wrote my first book, Mode One: Let the Women Know What You're REALLY Thinking, was to encourage single heterosexual men to always make it crystal clear to women that all they want is short-term, non-monogamous 'casual' sex if indeed that is their objective.

If Dave made one mistake in this film, it would be that he did not make it specifically clear to Evelyn that he was just looking for a one-time episode of enjoyable sex (given that she was crazy, it probably would not have mattered even if he did).  Evelyn, like many women in real life, confuses and misinterprets his desire for casual sex with her as being representative of a genuine romantic interest in her.  Soon, Evelyn begins behaving as though she is Dave's new girlfriend.

The remainder of the film unfolds from there.

As mentioned in a number of my articles, women have a hormone called oxytocin that causes women to become emotionally attached to a male sex partner after multiple episodes of enjoyable, satisfying orgasms with him.

I do not condone a woman becoming a 'stalker' with any man, but in some women's partial defense, many men toy with women's emotions, and again, do not make it specifically clear that they are just looking for short-term non-monogamous sex rather than long-term monogamous sex.

Bottom line, when a woman comes running at you with a knife in her hand, do not say that I did not warn you.

#3 - Evan Rachel Wood as "Kimberly" in "Pretty Persuasion" (2005)
#3 - Evan Rachel Wood as "Kimberly" in "Pretty Persuasion" (2005) Google Images

#3 - Evan Rachel Wood as "Kimberly" in "Pretty Persuasion" (2005)

General premise of the movie:

A high school student who dreams of being a Hollywood actress and loves to be the center of attention falsely accuses her drama teacher of sexual harassment

Which of the six categories of 'women to avoid' does this female movie character fall into?  Drama Queen

IMDb.com page for Pretty Persuasion

Commentary about this particular character:  This film is more of a dark comedy than a drama, so there are lot of elements of both the film in general and the individual characters that you cannot take "too" seriously.

That being said though, Actress Evan Rachel Wood portrays her character of Kimberly as one of the most manipulative female high school students you could ever come into contact with.

Not only is Kimberly good at manipulating men, she is even effective at manipulating other girls.  In the film, she manipulates two of her best girlfriends to the highest degree.  Kimberly's manipulative ways will leave you shaking your head at times.

Here is the deal:  Both men and women can be and are manipulative.  The difference is, men almost always have sex (and more specifically, casual sex) as their endgame (which makes men's manipulations much more predictable).

Women on the other hand really do not need to manipulate men for sex (unless the man is married or otherwise romantically involved).  All they have to do is offer sex, and men will usually take it.  Women primarily manipulate men for flattering attention, entertaining social companionship, financial favors, non-financial favors, and someone to gossip with and vent with.

Kimberly LOVES to be the center of attention.  Many women do.  I always say, many women value flattering attention and entertaining conversation in the same way that most men value blowjobs and hand jobs.  

The thing you need to remember always is this:  The more you go out of your way to manipulate others, the more you set yourself up to be potentially manipulated yourself when you cross paths with someone who is just as manipulative, if not more manipulative, than you are.

#2 - Nicole Kidman as "Suzanne" in "To Die For" (1995)
#2 - Nicole Kidman as "Suzanne" in "To Die For" (1995) Google Images

#2 - Nicole Kidman as "Suzanne" in "To Die For" (1995)

General premise of the movie:

A woman who very badly wants to climb the ladder in the world of network television news is willing to do anything to achieve her goals, even if it means killing her own husband

Which of the six categories of 'women to avoid' does this female movie character fall into?  1) Gold Digger / Social Climber 2) Liar / Cheater / Adulteress

IMDb.com page for To Die For

Commentary about this film and/or particular character:  If you are a woman reading this, have you ever wanted a job or career position SO BAD that you felt like you would do anything to get it?  If you are a man reading this, have you ever wanted to date a woman or have sex with a woman SO BAD that you would do anything that woman asks of you?

This film highlights both angles mentioned above.

Suzanne (Actress Nicole Kidman, who won a Golden Globe award for her performance) wants to be a successful network television news anchor very, very badly.  Problems arise when her husband Larry (Matt Dillon) wants her to put less emphasis on her career, and begin concentrating on being a stay-at-home wife and mother to future children.

This does not sit well with Suzanne at all, so she begins plotting to have her husband killed (I know some are saying, "Why not just divorce him??  Why do you have to kill him??"  I agree!).  Later, she seduces three teenagers (two boys and one girl) into the idea of killing her husband by lying to them and giving them the impression that her husband has been physically and emotionally abusive toward her.

The film is actually loosely based on the real life story of Pamela Smart.

I am all for a woman being career-focused, but when a woman is so career driven that she looks at the idea of being a potential mother to children as a hindrance, that is a major red flag.  

Many married men over the years have reported having wives like this.  Women who initially gave the men the impression that they wanted to have one or more children and raise a family, but a year or two into the marriage, they made it clear that pursuing their career was far more important than being a stay-at-home mom and wife.

Women like this should never aspire to be married.  Simple.  Or, only marry men who have absolutely no desire for children.  In today's society, you actually now have men who are stay-at-home dads (i.e., "house husbands") and they take care of the children while their wives are the career-oriented ones and the breadwinners.  If that works out for those men and their respective wives, more power to them.

#1 - Kathleen Turner as "Matty" in "Body Heat" (1981)
#1 - Kathleen Turner as "Matty" in "Body Heat" (1981) Google Images

#1 - Kathleen Turner as "Matty" in "Body Heat" (1981)

General premise of the movie:

A married woman no longer wants to be with her husband, but she does want the quality lifestyle that his wealth provides for her; soon, she has an affair with a lawyer from a small town in Florida, and convinces him to help her do away with her husband

Which of the six categories of 'women to avoid' does this female movie character fall into?  1) Gold Digger / Social Climber  2) Liar / Cheater / Adulteress

IMDb.com page for Body Heat

Commentary about this film and/or particular character:  Of all of the films I have ever viewed in my adult life that center on a woman manipulating a man for self-serving motivations, this film undoubtedly ranks as my number one choice.

Men, repeat after me:  "Some women may love male companionship, but they love wealth and material possessions even more."  Say it again.  Say it again.  Say it two hundred more times until that thought sinks in deeply.

If you give some women the choice between dating a broke, unemployed man that they truly love or dating a multimillionaire who annoys them or bores them, I guarantee you that no less than forty percent of the women in this country would choose the multimillionaire.

The ideal situation for women like this is to marry the rich guy, and cheat on him with the poor guy.  Or, in the case of Matty (Actress Kathleen Turner), have the not-poor-but-not-rich-either guy murder your husband and you keep the rich guy's wealth.

I remember a line from the 1987 film, Wall Street, when Actress Daryl Hannah tells Actor Charlie Sheen, "You will find that it is worse to have had wealth ... and lost it ... than to have never had it at all."  In other words, for many people in society, the thought of going from being poor to rich - and back to being poor again - is more terrifying than being poor your entire life.

That is essentially all you need to know about the character of Matty.  She loves men and she loves good sex, but make no mistake ... she loves money and an upscale lifestyle more than the companionship of ANY man.

***PLOT SPOILER BELOW***

If you are a man, it is one thing to get 'played' to the point where a woman's manipulation of you leaves you with a bruised ego or hurt feelings.  What about being played to the point that you end up going to prison for a murder that you did not (knowingly) commit?

This is what happens in this film with the character of Ned (Actor William Hurt).  Throughout the entire film, he thought that Matty actually wanted to be with him.  You know ... happily ever after, and all that lovey-dovey corny stuff.  Uhm ... no.  Matty liked Ned, and she liked having sex with Ned, but given a choice between having wealth and no Ned, or Ned and no wealth, Matty chose the former rather than the latter.

In the Christian Bible, it says, "The love of money is the root of all evil."  What that means for men is, when you meet a woman who loves money more than male companionship, you can assume that this woman is inherently "evil" (or at least, selfish and highly materialistic).  As a woman once said to me, "I can be broke all by myself.  I don't need a man in my life to be broke."

This film is must-see film for men.  You will learn that in the short-run, interacting with a woman with a beautiful face and a high degree of sex appeal can be exciting, but in the long-run - if that woman is a master manipulator - she will leave your psyche and life in total shambles.

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