For most people, starting a family is something that many look forward to. A child can be a great way to let your blood line live on, and can really seal most relationships and lives. It's a fulfilling goal for many, as it should be. However, nobody tells you the stuff you really should know. They tell you how many diapers you'll go through, and how many onesies you should buy, but they never tell you the stuff that actually matters. This is why I've decided to write this list, to tell all of you parents and parents to be just what you need to hear.
Read on, and if you have any tips of your own, feel free to share them in the comment section.
It's okay if your child cries
Though the sound of screeching baby cries may not be pleasant, it's okay. The fact is, even when there's nothing wrong, your child will find something to cry about. This is especially true after their first birthday. Not every time you hear a cry will you need to rush over. Relax, your kid will cry, and you know what? That's okay.
You will go crazy
After the first few months, that new baby smell is going to start to seem..not so new. You will begin to get a little crazy, and you may even find yourself shutting yourself in the bathroom just to get a few minutes of peace. This okay, and it's to be expected. Every parent is going to get a little frustrated, just take some time for yourself and all will be fine. You don't need to be a ray of sunshine 24/7 to be a good parent.
Your house will get messy
Today's magazines and jet setting moms make everything look so peachy and easy. Kids, work, dinner, clean house and baking? Psh, no problem. However, in the real world, where most people live, a messy house with sticky baby hands running around is inevitable. This doesn't make you a bad parent, let your kids be kids and clean later. As Roseanne once said "excuse the mess, but we live here."
Your in laws will always dissaprove
Unless you were graced with some golden, magical in laws, every visit will seem like an eternity. They will have something to say about every thing you're doing, and it will mostly be negative. It doesn't mean you're actually doing anything wrong though. Either grin and bear it, or put them in their place. Either way, it's all okay!
Your child will get messy
Too many times will you see someone in media, or even in your family, complaining about messy toddlers. Let's face it though, your child will get messy, and unless your kid is like the child in this photo, it's NOT always necessary to change their clothes. A little juice stain never hurt anyone.
Your child will end up in mismatched clothes
Much to your in laws disappointment, little Billy will end up wearing mismatching socks and possibly even a yellow and orange striped shirt with bright green shorts *GASP*. But you know what? That's okay too. Your child does not and will not have to look like a model every day, all day. It's okay to not have matching socks, you're not a bad parent. Hey, at least your kid has socks.
You will slip up word wise in front of little ears
Adults curse, it's part of the world. Just because you accidentally slipped up and said a no no word, doesn't make you some awful parent. It's okay to slip up every now and then. Once your child is old enough to understand those words, just make sure they know that it's not okay to say. It's human and your child will be fine.
Nothing will be yours anymore
Before children, you had nice things, after children, you have nice, half broken, sticky things. While this can be annoying, it's okay. Just be sure to keep an eye on the really important stuff. Also remember that stuff can be replaced, so don't freak out if tiny baby hands spill some juice on that new iPhone you have.
You will use the TV as a "babysitter" sometimes
Before you have a child, you'll be shocked to hear that some mothers actually allow their children to watch TV. After you have a child, you'll be glad that there's kids shows on at nearly anytime. Every once and awhile, that TV set will be your saving grace, and this is okay. As long as your kid isn't spending every waking hour in front of it, you're doing just fine.
It will be okay
Though you'll be tired, stressed, hungry and will miss the way a night out felt, everything will be okay. You're doing fine, and you will do fine. Never listen to anyone who tries to tell you else wise. As long as your child is happy, healthy and alive at the end of the day, you're doing perfect, and everything will be okay.