Tired of dating? Some tips to rediscovering the excitement

 

Yes, it’s Saturday night once again. Those of us who are single know…dating can be a struggle, and this night in particular can point out our loneliness better than any other. If we have been in the dating pool for a while, we have come to expect that at best dating is boring, and at worst it is disappointing and predictable. Why not grab a drink with friends instead, or just stay home and watch CSI reruns?

But for all of you cynical daters out there, what would you say if I told you that it is possible to enjoy dating?

Before you hit me with your list of reasons why dating will always suck, consider this: stop thinking of every date as potential girlfriend or boyfriend material. Stop listing all of the reasons why you may or may not find the person attractive. Dating isn’t always about finding your perfect partner from the first moment you lay eyes on him or her. Sometimes a date is just a date. And you do it to have fun and enjoy the company.

Think about what would make the date an enjoyable experience. How can you get to know the person across the table from you as you would a real friend? Here are some things to consider when going on your next date. Who knows, maybe he or she will surprise you!

1. Think outside the restaurant box. We all enjoy a nice meal and glass of wine, but these aren’t the only things to do on a first date. If you like being outdoors and want to get in some exercise, suggest rollerblading or going on a hike together. Even if the company doesn’t suit you, you will have fun doing an activity you enjoy.

2. Go someplace new. Although most of us would rather meet a first date at a familiar and comfortable place, go outside of your usual comfort zone. Maybe you’ve wanted to try some Ethiopian food or to check out the latest street fair. Now is the time!

3. Try listening to your date…you don’t have to carry the conversation. Silence can be uncomfortable, but instead of talking about your annoying co-worker or the latest trick you taught your dog just to fill a lull in the conversation, ask him questions. Find out what makes him unique.

4. Discover her passion. Everyone has a unique history. Everyone has interests. Stop asking the standard “what do you do for a living?” questions. Instead, ask her what she loves to do more than anything else, and see if she gets excited when she starts talking. Excitement is contagious. And fun.