Five tips for dating success

 

How many times have we heard our friends claim that it is impossible to find a decent guy or girl to date? Technology has made it easier than ever to connect, and yet some people manage to find partners while others continue to search.

So, what exactly is going on? Are the good ones all married or otherwise unavailable? According to the U.S. Census Bureau, 92 million people, or roughly 42% of the American population, are single. So, this excuse seems flawed. It implies that almost half of the population is not quite cutting it as long-term relationship material. So, if we are looking for love, what can we do to effectively change our circumstances?

I’ve offered some suggestions below to help you shape up your dating life. This may not bring Mr. or Ms. Right into your life immediately, but it will help expand your network to strengthen your chances of finding potential love interests. The more people you meet, the more chances you have to meet someone who excites you. Always remember to keep an open mind and refrain from going to the same old places---dating doesn’t have to be an exercise in frustration!

1. Accept every invitation you can. Friends’ parties, networking events, etc.---you never know who could introduce you to that special someone. Also, return the favor and host a party yourself, either at your house or at a local bar or restaurant. It doesn’t have to be fancy, but a nice way of returning the favor and getting you invitations to more events and parties.

2. Make yourself go to events alone. Guys find women much more approachable if they are not among a group of girls, and the reverse is true as well. Try attending your next event on your own and see the response you receive. This also forces you to let go of any shyness, as you will need to introduce yourself and join in conversations.

3. Go someplace you’ve never been. Maybe there is an art opening in a part of town you never visit. This could be a great opportunity. Pretend you are on vacation and leave yourself open to meeting new people and having a new experience!

4. Join a group and be active. If you like hiking, kickball, tennis, underwater bowling…whatever, there is a group for you! Websites like MeetUp.org provide a variety of choices depending on your interests, and if nothing else, it’s a way to meet new friends who enjoy doing what you like to do!

5. Keep a positive attitude. Everyone likes to be around someone who makes them feel good, so this attracts people to you. Excitement and good energy are magnets for good dating prospects.