One usually assumes the prettiest women are all taken. This goes back to the days when the cheerleaders all had football player boyfriends in high school. But quite often, this is not the case. Let's take a look at the following scenario.
- You are female, single, attractive, and are a member of several online dating sites.
- You have your profile photos professionally taken, and your friends think you’re a beauty.
- Your friends and family have read your online dating profile and think it deserves 5 stars.
- Hundreds, if not thousands of men view your photos. Many of them send you a “wink” but you never receive an email introduction.
- You attend social events and never get approached by men, who may find you attractive.
- Your mother reminds you to put on your lipstick before you go out the door. After all, you might be meeting “the one” in the supermarket.
Yet, you are alone on Saturday nights.
Does this sound familiar? Why are some of the prettiest women still single?
I recently had a conversation with a man who told me that he would never have asked out the prom queen, for fear of rejection. Another male that I interviewed, told me that he finds pretty women intimidating. He claims he would rather approach a less-attractive woman who might accept his advances.
I wonder, how can a woman who takes the time to stay in good shape, and who was born with good genes be discriminated against in the singles scene?
Why would one want to dress-down, dumb-it-down, and not look their best?
The answer really lies with the men, and not the women alone. As women, we must remain approachable, go out with smiles on our faces, and do our part to encourage a man’s advances.
So here’s my dating advice for single men. If you have a secret crush on a woman, let her know. Don’t let your feelings remain a secret for fear of rejection. Don't assume that because you find a woman beautiful on the outside, that her Inbox and dating card are full. You’d be surprised how many pretty women stay at home on Saturday nights, while their coupled-up friends are out socializing.
If you are online dating, don’t just select a pretty face and file her as a favorite. Go ahead and take the first step and write to the girl you do admire. You might be pleasantly surprised at the results.
Julie Spira is the author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at www.CyberDatingExpert.com
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Great advice Julie.
And even if you get rejected, so what? It's a good place to practice taking risks. I think handling rejection is much like public speaking. The more you do it, the easier it gets. Nothing risked, nothing gained.
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I'm finding a lot of pretty single women at PassionSearch.com.
This is so true! Fear - it gets in the way of love beyond just dating. Good advice.
Thanks this was very good to me. I experiences this and am living this! Guys assume i have someone !
Ok I read the article and I liked it very much, but I have another question. What happens when it's the other way around, I consider every woman pretty because we're all different and unique, but how come sometimes we get really shy, even though we are pretty, of approaching a cute guy??
Guys are scared of pretty girls. That's why most men end up with ugly and or fat wives. The trick is to go somewhere like a night club where a guy gets a few shots of liquid courage and then is good to go.
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