While it is essential to find the right instructor, it is also useful to have a good book on the subject for your reference. The book can help you review and also serve as a springboard for discussion. There are many negative precept involved (thou shalt not) but also some positive ones (thou shalt). One text that you can look into is the last of the 3 volumes on Woman and the Mitzvot: Guide to the Rabbinic Source by Rabbi ElyakimGetsel Ellinso, enttitled Ish Veishto [Man and His Wife]; it offers many rabbinical sources and explanations about marital relations in halacha. It has been translated into English by Raphael Blumberg as Partners in Life (1998). When selecting a book on the topic, check that the text is not only informative but in sync with your perspective on women, marriage, and Jewish law.
You can find some of the concerns with texts brought to light in Gender Relationships in Marriage and Out. Blau, Rivkah, ed.. Ktav, 2007. This book is comprised of 12 essays that originated as papers delivered during the Orthodox Forum in New York in 2005. It in inclues a review of some of the books currently available for kallah classes in the chapter by Devora Zlochower entitled, " Preparing Modern Orthodox Kallot and Hatanim for Marriage."You can read parts of it at Google books here
You can access a listing of books on articles on the topic with links to download or order at http://www.jofa.org/social.php/life/marriage/kallahandhat/+sort=author
Also see What-they-didnt-teach-you-in-school--Jewish-intimacy-and-prewed-classes-part-1 part-2,-part-3 In depth reviews of 2 books to follow in : part-4and part-5
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