The best investment you can make in your relationship for 2010

Everyone should own a good infidelity reference
book. Find out why. Photo: Hiram Adu-kusi

A good infidelity reference book is the best investment you can make in your marriage or relationship this year – regardless of whether or not you have a cheating mate. Read on to find out why.

The Relationship Equivalent of a Medical Reference Book

Just as it’s advisable for you to have a good medical reference book in your home so you can detect signs or symptoms that could be fatal to your health – it’s also advisable for you to have a good infidelity reference book in your home so you can detect signs and symptoms of infidelity, which can be fatal to your marriage or relationship.

Infidelity Can Affect Anyone, at Any Time

Infidelity is now at epidemic proportions. In on form or another, infidelity now affects 80% of all marriages and relationships today.

Infidelity does not discriminate. It can affect couples of any background, educational level, religion or race. Rich or poor, young or old, newlywed or married for 20, 30 or 40+ years. No one is immune. Infidelity can even happen to you. See Happy Husbands Cheat Too, How Good Men End Up Cheating on Their Mates, and Newlyweds and Infidelity.

If you haven’t experienced infidelity yet, chances are high that sooner or later you will. Will you recognize infidelity when it happens to you? See Why the Wife is Still the Last to Know and Is She Cheating? – Most Husbands and Boyfriends Find Out Too Late.

In this day and age, you can’t afford to be the last to know. There’s far too much at stake. See 3 Things a Wife Stands to Lose by Being the Last to Know and How Men are Affected by Female Infidelity.

The Risk of Relying on the Top 10 Signs of Infidelity

Most infidelity victims have no idea their spouse or significant other is having an affair. See Why Most Cheaters Don’t Get Caught.

If, like most people, you make the mistake of relying on the presence, or the absence of the so-called top 10 signs of infidelity to determine whether or not you have a cheating mate, you run the risk of either falsely accusing an innocent mate, or being the last to know. See Don’t Be Misled by the Top 10 Signs of Infidelity and How 2 Wives Were Seriously Mistaken about Signs of Infidelity.

How a Good Infidelity Reference Book Can Help

Whether you’re male or female, married, single, divorced, dating, engaged, or between relationships, a good infidelity reference book can be a valuable resource if you find yourself in one of the situations below:

• You want to avoid the hurt, humiliation, and heartbreak of being the last to know.

• You think your partner might be cheating and want to know for sure.

• You already know your spouse or significant other is cheating and you want to get solid proof

• You’re trying to reconcile with a cheating mate and want to make sure they’re not still seeing their affair partner behind your back.

• You’ve heard rumors that your mate is cheating and want to prove that the rumors are false.

• You've been cheated on before and want to know the signs of impending infidelity, so you can make sure it doesn't happen again.

• You’re a single person who’s dating and want to be familiar with the signs of a cheating mate.

• You’re a man who suspects his wife or girlfriend of cheating and want to know the signs.

• You want to know the signs of infidelity so you can safeguard your relationship and protect yourself from the legal, financial, emotional, and sexual damage infidelity can cause.

• You suspect infidelity, but don’t want to spend a fortune on private investigators or invest in fancy surveillance equipment.

• You want an easy, affordable, and accurate way to catch your cheating mate.

• You want a discreet way to check on your spouse or significant other with them knowing what you’re doing.

• You want to prove your partner is NOT cheating, so you can set your mind at ease and avoid falsely accusing an innocent mate

• You have a friend or relative who’s being cheated on, and you don't want to be the bearer of bad news – give them a good infidelity reference book, so they can find out on their own.

• You don’t want to sit back and be a helpless victim of infidelity.

In every one of the situations above, knowing what to look for is the key, and a good infidelity reference book (like Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs ) can help.

Why You Can’t Afford to be the Last One to Know

In this day and age, if your spouse or significant other is cheating on you, you can’t afford to be the last one to know.

It could cost you your marriage/relationship, your money, or your health.

Every day you put off finding out the truth you run the risk that

• Your cheating spouse will drain your joint bank accounts to finance their extramarital affair
• Your cheating spouse will max out your joint credit cards buying gifts for his or her lover and stick you with the bills.
• Your husband or boyfriend will get his lover pregnant, and end up having to pay child support.
• Your wife or girlfriend will become pregnant by her lover, and may even attempt to pass the child off as yours.
• Your cheating mate will put your health at risk by exposing you to HIV/AIDS or other sexually transmitted diseases, if he or she is having unprotected sex.
• Your cheating spouse or significant other will leave you and move in with his or her lover before you even realize what’s been going on.
• Your cheating husband or wife will surprise you with divorce papers that have been secretly prepared behind your back.

Being the last to know cannot only leave you open to embarrassment and financial ruin, it can seriously jeopardize your health. Knowledge is power. A good infidelity reference book can help you avoid all that. See 5 Practical Reasons to Search for Signs of Infidelity if You Suspect an Affair and 7 More Compelling Reasons to Search for Signs of Infidelity.

How You Benefit by Discovering Infidelity Early On

If infidelity is happening in your relationship, you can avoid the hurt, humiliation and heartbreak of being the last to know, by being able to recognize the telltale signs as soon as possible.

The sooner you spot the early warning signs of infidelity or the signs of an affair in progress, the better your chances are of nipping the infidelity in the bud before it reaches the point of no return.

And the better your chances are of minimizing a lot of the damage infidelity can cause by protecting yourself legally, financially, sexually and emotionally.

Your future, and the future of your marriage or relationship may well depend on your ability to spot the signs in time.

Are you beginning to see why you need a good infidelity reference book?

How to Identify and Choose a Good Infidelity Reference Book

A good infidelity book will meet most or all of the following criteria:

• contains infidelity signs that apply to men or women
• helps you find the maximum number of telltale signs
• exposes all types of infidelity
• easy to use
• lists both obvious and subtle signs of infidelity
• does not require the purchase of software or equipment
• is not dependent on technology
• written by a nationally-recognized infidelity expert, marriage and family counselor, private investigator, or other professional in the field

How Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs Measures Up

Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs fits all the criteria above and more.

• the only infidelity book on the market that lists practically every known sign of infidelity

• also includes the subtle signs most people usually overlook.

• despite the title, most of the signs in the book, it apply to both cheating women and cheating men. (The e-book version has a special section entitled Is SHE Cheating)

• written by an internationally-recognized infidelity expert who is frequently called on by the media to comment on infidelity issues in the news, and who has appeared on TV and has been quoted by countless magazines and newspapers worldwide.

• exposes all types of infidelity, including emotional infidelity, cyber infidelity, workplace infidelity, financial infidelity, female infidelity, same-sex infidelity and more.

• over 800 conveniently grouped into 21 major categories so you can easily find the signs that apply to your marriage/relationship, your circumstances, or your mate. NOTE: The 21 categories are listed in the box on your right.

• all signs of infidelity listed can be found using nothing more than your own eyes and ears, your personal knowledge of your mate, and the information in the book.

• no special skills or equipment are required, everything you need is contained in the book

In addition, Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs also includes

• signs which can help you determine the identity of the Other Woman or the Other Man.
• signs the cheater wouldn’t even think to cover up.
• signs practically impossible for a cheater to conceal.
• signs the cheater is totally unaware that he or she is displaying.
• signs even a private investigator would be unlikely to find without input from you.
• hundreds of signs not found anywhere else but in this book

And if the suspected cheater is innocent, Is He Cheating on You? can help you prove that too.

Click here to order your personal soft cover copy.of Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs or order from www.IsHeCheatingOnYouBook.com or Amazon.com

Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs is also available as an e-book from Booklocker.com.

Ruth Houston is a New York-based infidelity expert who is frequently called on by the media to comment on infidelity issues in the news. She is the author of Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs, the founder of InfidelityAdvice.com and publishes the Infidelity News and Views blog.

For information about signs of infidelity and how to catch a cheating mate, see, .

13 Things Everyone Should Know About Signs of Infidelity

Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs (softcover book)

Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs (e-book version with Affair Recovery information)

Happy Husbands Cheat Too

How Good Men End Up Cheating on Their Mates

Newlyweds and Infidelity

Why the Wife is Still the Last to Know

Is She Cheating? – Most Husbands and Boyfriends Find Out Too Late

3 Things a Wife Stands to Lose by Being the Last to Know

How Men are Affected by Female Infidelity

Why Most Cheaters Don’t Get Caught