Online affairs have become a growing menace to marriages and committed relationships today.
But how can you tell if your spouse or significant other is cheating online?
What are the signs of an online affair? What should you look for if you suspect an internet affair?
3 Types of Behavior
There are 3 types of behavior to be alert for, if you think your partner might be having a cyber affair.
- secretive or suspicious behavior
- nervous behavior
- defensive behavior
Secretive or Suspicious Behavior
- a sudden increase in the amount of time spent on the computer.
- using the computer at odd or unusual times of the day or night.
- using the computer at times the two of you would normally spend with each other.
- constantly changing the passwords to his or her e-mail account(s).
- deleting computer history.
- password protecting his or her computer or laptop when they never did so before.
- insisting on privacy when surfing the Net.
- moving the family computer to a locked room, or more private area of the home.
- taking his or her laptop to another room to go online
Nervous Behavior
- repeatedly looking over his or her shoulder, or glancing around while using the computer.
- checking to see where you are before he or she goes online.
- making a concerted effort to position the screen away from your view.
- blocking your view of the monitor or laptop screen if you get too close.
- becoming overly possessive of his or her computer or laptop, passwords, e-mail account when they openly shared these things before.
Defensive Behavior
- getting angry or lashing out at you if you inquire about his or her online activities.
- insisting that the person he or she is constantly communicating with online is “just a friend.”
- stubbornly clinging to the belief that online infidelity or cyber affairs are not “real” infidelity,
- accusing you of being jealous of his or her online friend.
- accusing you of prying into his or her personal affairs.
These are just a few examples of the kind of behavior that can alert you to the fact that your spouse or significant other is involved in an online affair.
Chapter 23, entitledComputer Use, in Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs, lists 30 computer-related telltale signs that can indicate internet infidelity of online affairs. It also lists njmerous other signs of infidelity, both obvious and subtle, that your partner may be involved in an affair. For more information about this book, click here.
A Fool Proof Test for Online Infidelity
What if you find an abundance of telltale signs indicating possible online infidelity, or suddenly see these types of behaviors, and your spouse or significant other insists there’s nothing going on?
What if he or she insists the person they’re constantly communicating with online is just a friend?
There’s a surefire way to find out. This foolproof test will tell you whether or not your partner is cheating online.
Ask your spouse or significant other if you can sit beside him or her and observe the exchange of correspondence back and forth.
How does he or she react?
If he or she makes excuses, gives trumped up reasons why you can’t do this or vehemently objects, then you have your answer as to how innocent or harmless their internet friendship really is. _______________________________________________________________
*** © copyright 2010 Ruth Houston All Rights Reserved.
Ruth Houston is a New York-based infidelity expert who is frequently called on by the media to comment on high profile infidelity and popular infidelity issues in the news. She is the founder of www.InfidelityAdvice.com , the author of Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs, and publishes the Infidelity News and Views blog. To interview infidelity expert Ruth Houston, or have her speak at your next event, call 718 592-6029 or e-mail InfidelityExpert@gmail.com
For more information about signs of infidelity, see the articles below:
10 Things You Should Know about Signs of Infidelity
Before Searching for Signs of Infidelity, Prepare Yourself for What You Might Find
Is He Cheating? Is She Cheating? – 21 Ways You Can Tell (free tip sheet)
Infidelity 101: What are the Top 10 Signs of Infidelity?
Don't Be Misled By the Top 10 Signs of Infidelity
Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs(soft cover book)
Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs(e-book version with Affair Recovery information)
Infidelity Resources to Help you Catch a Cheating Mate
Before Searching for Signs of Infidelity, Prepare Yourself for What You Might Find
Will You Be the Next Wife or Girlfriend to Become a Victim of Infidelity? - a Quiz
Why Most Cheaters Don’t Get Caught
Signs of Infidelity That Contradict Each Other
The Best Investment You Can Make in Your Relationship for 2010
Comments
I am really pretty sure:your spouse or your significabt one won´t be able to cheat you.On the contrary many people included me now we know how to do thing better because of your writtings. TY
Dear Ruth: I like very much your articles.
why are all of your articles about men that cheat? C'mon now. They aren't the only ones.
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