40 fatal signs that you're about to be dumped

These 40 signs can indicate that your marriage or relationship is in serious trouble.    

There are many subtle and not-so-subtle signs that your spouse or significant other has lost interest in you, and that the demise of your marriage or relationship is fast approaching.     

If you start seeing clusters of the signs below, prepare yourself mentally and emotionally because the end is very near.    

These signs apply to women, as well as men, and are usually an indication that your mate has found someone else.      

40 fatal signs that you’re about to be dumped     

1. Decreased or non-existent eye contact – can no longer look you in the eye.
2. Stops using his/her pet name for you.
3. Begins distancing himself/herself from you emotionally.
4. No longer asking you about your day.
5. No longer shares the events of his or her day.
6. Becomes highly critical of your appearance, behavior, speech of other things you do.
7. Picks fights over trivial or insignificant matters.
8. Is now busily involved in new activities that don’t include you.
9. Develops a cold uncaring attitude
10. No longer wants to participate in activities that the two of you once enjoyed together.
11. Is less attentive to you and your needs.
12. Becomes rude, disrespectful, or inconsiderate.
13. Avoids spending quality time with you.
14. Stops being romantic.
15. Complains about you to friends  - yours and theirs.
16. Stops giving you compliments.
17. Pulls way when you try to show affection.
18. Having conversation with him or her is like pulling teeth.
19. No longer cares about where you go or what you do.
20. Reluctant to make or commit to any long range plans that involve the two of you
21. Talks about needing space.
22. No more pillow talk after sex.
23. Gives you the silent treatment.
24. Accuses you of making demands on his or her time.
25. Takes longer to return your calls, or doesn’t return them at all.
26. Stops checking in routinely with you during the day.
27. No longer holds your hand in the movies, or when you’re walking together.
28. Becomes short tempered or impatient with you.
29. Things you say or do that they once considered cute or endearing now annoy them.
30. Acts restless when they’re around you – can’t wait for your time together to end.
31. May not flirt openly with the opposite sex in your presence.
32. Starts doing things to sabotage your relationship.
33. Accuses you of checking up on him or her.
34. Accuses you of having an affair.
35. Starts talking about dating others (if single),  or getting a divorce (if married).
36. Becomes evasive or secretive about his or her activities.
37. Overreacts to innocent questions or comments from you.     
38. Has an air of indifference.
39. Makes excuses to avoid previously planned social activities with you.
40. Develops new interests or hobbies that he or she doesn’t share with you.

This information is based on my experience as an infidelity expert with over  17 years of in-depth research on the topic of infidelity.

Most of the signs above are taken from my book  Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs, from the chapters entitled  Day-to-Day Behavior, How He Relates to You, Personality Changes, and Conversational Clues.   

Is He Cheating on You? lists practically every known sign of infidelity, including the many subtle signs (such as the ones above)  that  people usually overlook.  Despite the title of the book, most of the signs in it apply to women, as well as men.  For more information, click here.     

What These Subtle Signs Mean    

Seeing one or two of these signs may not mean very much.  But the more signs you see, the more critical the situation, and the greater the cause for concern.  These  subtle and not-so-subtle signs are usually an indication of infidelity, but they could also indicate other relationship problems, too.     

If you suddenly start seeing numerous signs from this list, your marriage or relationship is in serious trouble, and you need to find out what the problem is.      

Take time to fully assess the situation, and decide what’s in your best interests to do, before it’s too late.    

The articles, resources, and free tip sheets in the list below can help.  ____________________________________________________________

*** © copyright 2010 Ruth Houston All Rights Reserved.

Ruth Houston  is  a New York-based infidelity expert who is frequently called on by the media to comment on high profile infidelity and popular infidelity issues in the news. She is the founder ofwww.InfidelityAdvice.com, the author of  Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs, and publishes  the Infidelity News and Views blog. To interview infidelity expert Ruth Houston, or have her speak at your next event, call 718 592-6029 or e-mail  InfidelityExpert@gmail.com       

For practical  advice on infidelity and other relationship problems, see the articles, resources, and free tip sheets below:    

Will You Be the Next Woman to Become a Victim of Infidelity?    

How CanI Keep HimFrom Cheating on Me?    

Before Searching for Signs of Infidelity, Prepare Yourself forWhat You Might Find    

Is He Cheating? Is She Cheating? – 21 Ways You Can Tell    (free tip sheet)  

What Should I Do If I Think He or She Is Cheating on Me? 

You Think He’s Cheating on You - Is It Intuition or Insecurity?   

Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs    (soft cover book) 

Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs     (e-book version with Affair Recovery information)

The Best Investment You Can Make in Your Relationship for 2010    

Why Most Cheaters Don’t Get Caught

7 Steps to Catch a Cheating Mate   

When Should You Hire a Private Investigator to Check Out a Cheating Mate? 

What a Betrayed Wife Stands to Lose by Being the Last to Know 

Why the Wife is STILL the Last to Know   

Online Resourcesto Help You Catch or Monitor a CheatingMate 

FREE  Infidelity Tip Sheets for Men and Women with Cheating Mates