Every Mother's Day, I am surrounded by children. As a foster and adoptive mom, there is never a dull moment in my household. This morning, I woke up to screams and yells of "Happy Mother's Day!" and my heart was filled with joy and love. Part of the love I feel is for the birthmothers of my adopted children.
Birthmothers who place their children for adoption are a rare breed in a society that focuses on 'me, me, me.' Women who make an adoption plan and choose an adoptive family for their child are among the most amazing women in the world I've ever met.
Adoption is a truly selfless decision, and I've met numerous birthmothers who feel society simply doesn't want to understand why the decision to place a child for adoption might be made. For any birthmother reading this, don't worry: There are many, many of us who respect and applaud your decision to place your child's needs before yours. We know the decision was never about you, it was about the child every step of the way. For you, overwhelming love superseded biology.
There's a great article about birth and adoptive mothers in the Woonsocket Call that I read this morning. I've added the link here for your reading pleasure.
And, as the adoptive mom in the article says, "It is with a full heart that I wish all birthmothers a Happy Mother’s Day, especially the birthmothers of my children."
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Comments
Spare us, please. If you are a MOTHER, then they are mothers without the "birth" qualifier. It's offensive to me as an adult adoptee to have you and others refer to my mother as an incubator.
Happy Adoptive Mother's Day to you!
MEOW. Geez, Sunny - clearly you have issues with ALL your parents. Sure hope life lightens up for you soon. I thought the article was a pleasant nod to the triad ... sure didn't see any reference to incubators in there at all.
We may be writing to the converted here, but anyway, there are many blogs on-line that show just how adoption is proving to be a complex and sensitive issue. Reuinions are not unheard of as blood as thicker than water, so there is info abut please see what adoptees have to say as they can get very unhappy.
Why is we can't ever have a civilized conversation when it comes to adoption or birth mothers? It's really discouraging..
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