How to think about a relationship with a Man

It I asked you to describe the steps that take place from when a man first becomes attracted to a woman to when he commits to a relationship with her, would you be able to tell me?

If you're like 95% of the women I've met, then no, you couldn't and honestly before I started writing and researching about relationships, I couldn't either.

The problem is that women have not thought through what it takes for a man to become committed. So I will share something that is critical for you to know about men, commitment, and relationships.......A man NEVER makes a commitment to a woman as a result of a conversation or because she says she wants to be in a committed relationship with him, at least not one that lasts and is healthy and fulfilling for both the man and the woman.

Think about it for a minute......

It's important to point something out here that surrounds a common myth women hold.  Women believe that they have to have "the talk" with a man because this "talk" is the means that creates a commitment.

WRONG!

The truth is that while talking about commitment is an important step in building and strengthening things with a man, the 'true" commitment doesn't have anything to do with any conversation of words a man or a woman ever really have.

In other words, for a man, a commitment is a culmination of several things that happen at a much deeper level.  No conversation can ever replace or be as strong as the internal decision that a guy makes about you.  This is where most women have trouble, they constantly complain or "Nag" their man into having "the talk" and the next thing they know, they are being dumped.  They pushed and nagged too much and would not just let things happen.

Women need to realize that Men think differently and that they must process things differently, usually a lot slower then women.  Not that being slower to process is a bad thing, but it does take men longer to make commitments.

Women tend to approach situations with men this way instead, on a deep level, they hold on to a prepackaged idea of what a relationship with a man should be like, ignoring reality.  Society has everything on a time table, we are told that if you have dated for 6 months to a year the man should be asking for your hand in marriage, if you he may never marry you!  HOG WASH! Although I am a firm believer that if he hasn't asked you to marry him after a few years (2-3) then you might want to move on or do something a little drastic to get his attention, do not settle for just being "the girlfriend" or you will be stuck in that role for life.  If you want marriage then at some point you need to respect yourself by letting the man know a deadline or you are moving on.  But if you make this type of demand, then you must follow through.

Tomorrow's article will be "He owes me my ideal relationship"

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Till next time,

Jennifer