Getting out
In my column Ready, set, meet people, I wrote that many of the people you encounter on a daily basis are also searching for friends. However, two actions on your part are needed. One, you must get out. Two, you must break through that awkward feeling and start a conversation. In upcoming columns, I will show you how to do this, and how to tell if someone is feeling reciprocal. A social life brings joy, laughter, good times, companionship and above all, friendship. Never turn down an invitation (if you don't already have plans). Go to weddings and reunions. Go to parties. Go to classes of all kinds. go, GO, GO!
Another option for meeting people is the friendship-equivalent of the dating site Match.com. For research purposes, I joined SocialJane.com. (I'm wondering if there's a Social network for women equivalent to JDate? SocialSadie.com?) SocialJane launched last year and it's designed to help women find activity partners. It's a secure and private means for adult women to connect one-on-one with each other for movie dates, hiking, backpacking, skiing, etc. Only registered members can search the database and right now it's being offered free. I filled out my "profile" showing that I'd be interested in finding skiing partners in my area. Report to follow in a future column.
There is an art to mingling, and mingling is a first step to friendship-making. Some of us were born minglers and some of us need help breaking the ice. Stay tuned! (Actually, stay subscribed—you'll automatically be notified when a new column is published.)
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Love your column! I was always a "guys gal" intil my early twenties when I discovered the joy of meaningful friendships with women. Today, my gal pals are so important to me. Thank you!
I love men, but there is something special about hanging out with girlfriends that can't be replaced. Great article.
I just love all of your columns! Ever thought of writing a book, wink, wink! But really, such good advice. And there is such a need for it these days.
"I'm wondering if there's a Social network for women equivalent to JDate? SocialSadie.com?" Sort of Debbie, it's called Chabad! Great place for ladies to meet for friendship. ((But you know that, as you taught a cooking class here (Chatsworth) a few months ago))
Best of luck with this column. Leah Goldin
Hi. What were your results with SocialJane.com? That sounds wonderfully useful to have a site for women with the sole purpose of connecting with other women in friendship and/or activity. I'm going to join as well!
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