Relationship crisis yields relationship opportunity

May 8, 2:06 PMMiami Relationships ExaminerDr. Erica Goodstone

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Have you ever heard that in the Chinese language, the picture word for crisis also means opportunity?

In this country, at this point in time, many of have been living in a state of crisis.  Some of us have recently lost our job or were forced to close our business due to financial problems.  Some of us are still at the same job, but required to do the work of two or three people who have been dismissed.  Some of us are living with the daily or weekly threat of sudden termination from our steady income source.

Financial problems and job loss certainly affect the emotional state of our relationships, especially our most intimate ones.  Many of us inadvertenly place the blame for the current problems upon our spouse or our children or our parents.  Many of us begin to feel strong emotions that had previously been masked by a flurry of activity.  Many of us are living in a continual state of fear and anxiety.

My immediate response is to say:  STOP!! Stop all the needless blame and unnecessary suffering.  Stop feeling like a helpless victim.  Stop bemoaning your current fate.  Stop keeping yourself isolated.  Stop holding onto a competitve state of mind.

What can you do now, immediately? 

*    First, change your attitude.  Develop an attitude of imminent possibility, knowing that change often leads to something unexpectedly good. 

*    Second, switch from a stance of competition to a desire to cooperate.  Join forces with your neightbors and friends.  Help each other out. Offer your hand in assistance without expecting something in return.

*    Third, use the current setbacks and "problems" as an opporuntity to self-reflect, learn new skills, and go in a new direction.

*    Fourth, make a project out of saving money, participate in less expensive and free activities, enjoy the free natural surroundings, cook meals at home for yourself and others, spend more quality time with lovers, friends and family

*   Fifth, find gratitude for all the good that you do have rather than focusing on, and worrying about, what you don't have.

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