You have a choice on how to handle situations that arise in your relationship. When things are stressful with the economy, former spouses, parenting, or relatives, make a choice to grow together and not apart. You may have to reframe certain situations in your mind or compromise in order to keep the peace. You made a commitment to make this marriage work.
Tips to grow together:
- Do not spend most of your time together dealing with problems. If your relationship revolves around conflicts and complaints then your marriage will be problem focused. Create new patterns by setting a time to deal with challenges. Avoid problem topics at other times.
- Make the most of your time together and focus on the positive and joyous things in your life as a couple and family. To remind yourself to stay upbeat, place a beautiful, bright bouquet of flowers in entry way, bedroom or dining room. In Phoneix, visit Camelback Flower Shop camelbackflowershop.com/. They have unique ideas and top notch service.
- Do not blame your partner for your problems, you are in this together. Commit to letting go of past arguments and issues that cycle again and again through your relationship. Put your relationship first.
- Plan a date with positive conversation. Take the Light Rail to downtown Phoenix, and have a romantic evening at Pizzeria Bianco, pizzeriabianco.com/. The wait is often long, and will provide you time as a couple to sit outside on a bench, sip wine and hold hands while you wait for a table. Agree to avoid touchy subjects or problems on your date night. To find Light Rail information, maps and schedules visit www.valleymetro.org/metro_light_rail/. Make your evening playful and fun!
- Remember the first five minutes set the tone for your time together, so put effort into creating a great evening from the start.
- Support each other.
- Love each other.
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