Some would say that a successful marriage has a strong spiritual root. It is far to feel that way. But would it also be fair to say that some sort of spirituality affects your marriage no matter the results. What I mean is whether or not you practice a positive spiritual life it is effective.
Even bad spiritual vibes connect to you as you go through life, influencing how you approach life and relationships. Most of the time those who have suffered bad experiences in life related to drug/alcohol addiction, physical or emotional abuse or sexual abuse, tend to become isolated people or aggressive people.
So even if they are not even in those situations any longer they manifest into how you approach life currently. At a level low than conscious awareness lies the root of why one becomes jealous, angry, codependent or maybe depressed. “Spirituality” is one way to live out one’s religious beliefs.
A spirituality of marriage, therefore, is a way to help husbands and wives live out the vocation of marriage in light of faith. Together they understand that a spiritual life can help them navigate around the stressors of life without submitting to their feelings first and becoming reactionary. This means that most of the time they manage to avoid big arguments and utilize their spiritual faith as a tool.
Your marriage with be influences on a spiritual level, you can choose if will be positive or negative. The negative struggles you have endured throughout your life are significant. If you continue to deny them will only have more of a negative impact on your marriage. One good way of describing this where you might have a picture is; most women who struggle with intimacy in a relationship have more than likely suffered through some sort of sexual trauma.
The pain of that has spiritually attached itself to her, again possibly at a lower level conscious awareness. Please keep in mind that a spiritual marriage does have great positives as well, in fact it is the positive faith in spirituality that can help in resolving these negative roots.
One way to picture this, although I am not Catholic, is; marriage is sacramental because it is a sign of Christ’s unbreakable love for his people. It is communitarian because it creates and deepens a permanent partnership of life and love. It is missionary because in Catholic marriage couples are called to share with others the good news of their relationship in Christ.
A spirituality of marriage helps couples shape their attitude toward life, and provides a framework for living one’s marriage in the light of faith. I know that some will struggle with this point of view so navigate the scenario however it fits your life and marriage. Also I am not in any way suggesting that religion is the only pathway to spirituality.
Spirituality is more than just a word. It’s more than just a simple definition. We all see spirituality differently. We see spirituality as a form of holiness. For some of us that means we need to have a Rabbi, a Priest, a Minister, an Imam or other who represents the spiritual side of life for us.
Spirituality is not about religion, it’s about experience (positive and negative), it’s about faith, and it’s about being true to yourself, especially about your past experiences, and to your beliefs. So, to make it clear, I am not talking about religion or religious beliefs.
I am not talking about going to Church or to Synagogue or anywhere else. I am talking about the spirituality that we are born with, the faith in the family, the community and the world around us. Our spirituality grows and develops as we mature and develops our way of life, to include our outlook on life, good and bad.