Online dating can turn into a nightmare
"On a first date my date and I were at the bar having a drink while we waited for a table at a restaurant I was really excited to try. We were in the midst of conversation when he interrupted and accused me of checking out the guy sitting behind him. What? I was confused and wondering is he serious right now? Oh yes, he was upset and dead serious. I looked behind him and pointed out that there was no one there! Embarassed and apologetic, he stammered about messing things up and wondered if we could salvage the date. The rest of the evening it was obvious we both could not get beyond what had occured earlier. At least the dinner was good."
"I once met a girl online and we planned a date at a wine bar. When she showed up she said, "Wow, you look really different that your picture." All of the pictures on my profile were less than 6 months old, so I was confused. Then she said, "Oh wait, I got you confused with another guy I'm seeing later tonight". Needless to say I didn't stick around for more than one glass of wine."
"I went out with a guy who disclosed to me within the first 15 minutes on our first date that he was a recovering addict and had blown through $120K in 6 months on coke. That's not the usual conversation starter for first dates, so you can imagine my jaw was pretty much on the floor. Needless to say, we werent a "match", but I respect him for being up front and honest!"
"This guy showed up in a suit on a first date. It was in the middle of the day in the summer when everyone, including me, was wearing jeans. He made fun of everyone and their mother during the date and talked about how great he was. When the check came I thought it was my cue to get out of his sight. Instead he said, "I am new to San Francisco. Why don't you show me around your neighborhood?" So I hesitantly agreed to walked him around my neighborhood in his full suit. On our walk he kept looking left and right and said out loud, "Wow, there are so many good looking women in your neighborhood. Whoa." I couldn't believe what I heard! I ended the date. "So when are we going to hang out again? I want to tour more of the city, Miss tour guide." The nerve of him!"
"I was excited to meet this new girl I was talking to that I met online. She seemed really sweet, and we hit it off on our phone conversation. When we met at the restaurant, the hostess said the wait would be close to 45 minutes. I thought this would be a good time to talk to her but she snapped at the hostess. "45 minutes? Are you serious?" Then for the next hour she complained about how hungry and frustrated she was. Everytime the waitress came around, she barked at her and stared her down. I quietly ate my brunch, and mapped out an exit plan. At the end of the date she became all sweet again. "I had a such great time! I can't wait to see you again. I'm sorry I was snappy. My friends are scared of me when I'm hungry." I too was scared of her, and never returned her calls after that."
Readers: Many of San Francisco's young professionals are transplants from other cities and countries. Some get to go home to visit family while others celebrate with their fellow transplant "families" in the city. How and where do you plan to spend your Thanksgiving holiday in San Francisco? What are you grateful for this year? Send your Thanksgiving stories and share them with readers at: SFYoungProfessional@gmail.com.
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