Are you old enough to remember that old saying, "You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink."? For this post it just simply means that you can give someone the opportunities and the tools to succeed and grow but you can't make them take advantage of them. You can't make them use those opportunities and tools for their personal growth.
When we give so much to someone in hopes that they will succeed and grow but then they turn those opportunities away, we can take it very personally. Believe me I know this to be true! The truth of the matter is, we can't take it personally because we did our job! We laid out those opportunities and tools for use. We did our job and their job is to either accept them or not. Plain and simple. We can't make people do what they are not ready to do.
So next time you feel disappointed because someone didn't take advantage of those opportunities and tools just be content in knowing that you did all you can do. You can't do their growing for them!
Keep leading them to water but stop trying to shove their heads in the water!