Relationships are harder to maintain today than ever before. It is even harder to find the right person in which to share a relationship with. Often times, men and women will complain that they cannot find a good woman or man.
Men, consider places and circumstances under which you are meeting women. Women, stop looking for a man, for the man that God has for you, is already in search of you. He will find you, when God deems you are ready.
Men and women fail to realize two issues that must be addressed when dating and searching—well actually three. Biblically, Proverbs 18:22 states, “He who finds a good wife, finds a good thing.” Nowhere in the scriptures does it say that she who finds a good husband finds a good thing. Translation—men, use God’s guidance when searching for a helpmate and women, just stop looking for a man, period.
Men – Why is that some men wonder why they cannot find a meaningful relationship when they search in all the wrong places? Why is it that some men use material possessions to reel in a woman, but then deem her a gold-digger when he finds out that the she is mostly interested in what he can give her? Why is that men will sleep with a woman on their first meeting, but call her unsavory names?
Yes, history shows that it is okay for a man to be promiscuous and be cool. This is not cool if you are sincerely looking for a woman such as the one found in Proverbs 31. If you are looking for a woman with character, class, style and morals, then perhaps it would be a good idea to date a woman with those qualities.
It is also important that you are ready for this type of relationship. Trash does not attract quality. Therefore, if you are looking for a great woman to date and share your life with, you, too have to be someone who is of quality and not trash.
Men often blame failed relationships on the woman and many say that the women have “daddy issues.” This may be true, however in several cases, the fact that your relationship did not work may have to do more with your lack of quality than her lack of a father figure.
Build your relationship with God and always find ways to improve yourself. Be the best you that you can be. Remember, having a good job, being a property owner, having a nice car, stock options, and a Sunday churchgoer is always good. However, it is important to remember that some of the most dysfunctional of men and women posses these same qualities.
Women – Why is that you forget that you should always strive to be as the woman described in Proverbs 31? Why is that you forget your worth and the fact that you are a precious gem? Sleeping with a man too early and thinking it will “keep” him, is one of the worst mistakes we make as women.
Women complain that there are no good men. Could it be that you attract what you are? If you are not a good woman, you will not attract a good man. Women, stop sleeping with men on the first date. Ultimately, marriage is reserved until after marriage, however, that is not the norm. If he knows he can score with you on the first date, why should there be a second? In addition, if there is a second, third or fourth, in most cases, he’s only coming back for your goodies and soon he will tire of those.
It is important not look for a father figure in a potential mate. Women, do not view time alone as being lonely. Utilize this time to improve yourself, improve your relationship with God. Go back to school, start a business, learn how to cook. Enjoy your time with family and friends. It will be at that point that the man God has for you will seek you and just when God thinks you are ready, he will send that man to you.
In conclusion, if men and women spend time working on themselves, making positive improvements, they will attract the person they want in their lives. You cannot ask for filet mignon when you are Spam. Work on self before trying to recruit anyone else.
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