Everybody's wife used to some man's second option.
Over the All Star weekend, Lil Wayne went on a tirade that included his expletive-laden insult to the Miami Heat. But what set the tweets ablaze thereafter was that he particularly singled out Chris Bosh by proclaiming how he was very familiar with Bosh's wife, Adrienne.
Everyone had their own opinion which spread across the spectrum; from Weezy's rant showed how fast his stock is plummeting to Adrienne being just another golddigger who came up. But one tweet stood out to me because I was in complete agreement with it. Weezy put that information out there which further confirmed his douchebaggery. However, why is everyone quick to assume that Bosh didn't already know about his wife's past?
Rappers and athletes tend to hang in the same circles without directly knowing one another all the time. They pose for pictures at parties, awards shows, and games and the assumption to the average person is that these men are genuinely cool with one another. It's highly doubtful that, if it weren't for basketball, Bosh and Weezy would be associative enough to even give each other the universal head nod. But the women that rappers and athletes choose to date, and in some cases marry, are always the common thread. For example, one of the most notorious community bodies, Kim Kardashian, has dated quite a few celebrities that have been in the same vicinity at one point. Her soon-to-be ex-husband plays for the same team owned by 1 of her current boyfriend's best friend. It doesn't get much closer than that! There are many situations of less than 6 degrees of separation where one man's sloppy seconds became another man's gourmet entree.
Adrienne Bosh is a classic case of "every saint has a past and every sinner has a future". While she sort of admits having dated Weezy many moons ago, it's not far-fetched that Bosh knew about her past. She must have some redeeming qualities enough that Bosh would marry someone that was doused in Weezy's syrup. The two have become one of the more well liked couples in the NBA and have been frequently photographed with their 9 month old son, Jackson and Bosh's daughter from a previously relationship, Trinity. So Weezy accomplished nothing except for once again proving he's the jackhole we've decided he is.
In the world of us regular people though, is it fair to judge a woman by the exes she has in her past?
The average guy doesn't care about how many bodies a woman has in her closet. For the most part, that's one of those questions that we'll never ask out of fear that the answer will be far more than we anticipated. Nobody wants to know that the woman they love used to be a community watering hole. However, things can become sketchy if a man looks at the outward makeup who's who of a woman's past. I mean, look at what having sex and procreating with Weezy did for Lauren London.
Who you date is a matter of your taste and interests. Who you have sex with is a reflection of how much respect you have for yourself and your love below. Generally, men care far more about who you've had sex with than who you dated. Likely because "dating" means different things to different people. But sex is sex; there is no gray area. Regardless of what circles you're in, you should be discriminatory with your love below. Adrienne Bosh's past catching up to her isn't a unique situation. Although you have to wonder that with someone like Weezy on her resume, assuming Bosh knew about it, did it weigh on his mind at all initially? I know I wouldn't want to swim good in the same pool Weezy dipped in.
With social circles overlapping far more frequently now, there will be women that you date who may have slept with someone you know. It's up to you to define how tolerable that knowledge is and if it effects your future with that woman. However, if she's consistently slept with men who are less than you in multiple ways, you do have to question how appealing and selective she really is.