It seems that interracial dating has become more prevalent now, than ever. It's not just in our neighborhoods, its on our TVs, in the movies and even in national marketing ad campaigns, depicting interracial couples and families.
Interracial dating, marriages, families and people, are just another part of our society as a whole. To each his own, right? If you are a person who has negative feelings about people of different races living their lives, as they see fit? In the new reality, your opinion doesn't matter to anyone else except you.
Okay, so remind us again of why interracial relationships were so frowned upon historically, and what has caused the noticeable shift of today? In a nutshell, people are evolving, and moving away from the dated stereotypes and racist notions of the past.
Well, not so fast. What happens when racism and sexism merge, and you are the unwitting target?
Can a love letter be hate mail at the same time? If you ask some of the Asian women on one online dating website, the answer is yes.
The first time that I heard the term "yellow fever" was in a comedy movie. The term refers to a sex fantasy of Caucasian men, targeting Asian women as sex objects.
The Tumblr blog 'Creepy White Guys' gives an account of several women's experiences of degrading sexual and racial harassment in dealing with men and their unhealthy sexual obsession with Asian women.
This is nothing new, right? Some men regard all women as sex objects, in general. We like to call these boys misogynists behind their backs, and a few other choice names to their faces!
Some men have taken the objectification of women, added an overt racial slant and are using it to degrade and dehumanize Asian women.
The idea of targeting a woman as a sex object is dehumanizing. Adding racial stereotypes and slurs makes it even more despicable. Barring an overt sexual approach, how will a woman know if a man's interest in her is real, or if he is just acting out a fantasy? As if being a single woman today isn't already taxing enough at times.
The online dating website OKCupid.com, appears to have a very relaxed filtering process in flagging email messages containing explicit sexual content, that is clearly spelled-out.
Although most online dating websites have a 'block' feature which allows a user to stop receiving email messages deemed as inappropriate. This feature is only useful after the fact of receiving explicit and disturbing messages.
Here are excerpts of actual email messages received by unwitting young Asian women, on OKCupid.com and a few other online dating websites.
What is equally as disturbing as these men's sexist approach to Asian women, is the counter racist approach to Asian men and denigrating remarks about Caucasian women.
One woman received this gem of a message. She is Asian, but not of Chinese heritage.
"Chinese women always tell me they like white men the best, why do you think that is? Chinese women tell me, white men are the greatest, they have the most money and the most power, and Chinese women really enjoy bringing happiness to men with money and power, especially for white men! Many Chinese women, when they see that I am a white man, fall in love with me like they are crazy! But, my standards are very high, only the most beautiful, most knowing how to serve a man Chinese women catch my interest. As a white man, I can have any Chinese woman, but miss, I am only interested in you! You should be so happy!"
Here are a few other received email messages.
"Want to be the Tiger Mother to my future half-Asian children?"
" Is your **** spicy like Kim-Chee or raw like sushi?"
"Don't you hate Asian guys? How nerdy they are, how ugly they are, how they are a showvinist? That's why they are always the bad guys and douchebags in movies and on TV shows. Don't you want a good looking White Guy to date? Holler at your white man, girl!"
This man denigrates an entire group of women in his attempt to charm the recipient of the following message.
"I find Caucasian women rowdy and short on manners. I like pretty and ladylike, petite and sophisticated, confident, but not too arrogant women."
Some of the other received email messages on Creepy White Guys are far more disturbing.
Let's face it, there is no way to police the thoughts and inclinations of others. However, OKCupid and all of the other dating and social network sites may want to take action against explicit sexual harassment and hate speech, against its users, or face class action lawsuits.
The mega social networks Facebook and Twitter have taken measures to stop hate speech, and gender based hate speech, on it's networks,