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Workplace romance: the wrong way to date someone at work

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More and more people are finding love in their workplaces and it can be a wonderful thing…but there’s a right way and a wrong way to handle them. Choose the wrong way and you could damage not only a promising relationship, but a promising career as well. Take this advice from Tina B. Tessina, PhD, (aka "Dr. Romance") psychotherapist and author of Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting about the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage.

  1. DON'T get involved with a married co-worker, no matter how much you like each other. All it takes is one rumor or bit of gossip (which will spread like wildfire throughout the office…and beyond) to blow any relationship out of proportion and create a mess you can’t handle.
  2. DON'T share information about your dating situation with your coworkers. You'll become the subject of office gossip and it’s rarely, if ever, positive.
  3. DON'T suddenly start dressing provocatively at work. Not only will it alert your coworkers that something's going on, but it’s just plain unprofessional.
  4. DON'T allow yourself to be used by someone else in the office to get influence or information from your romantic interest.
  5. Don't cuddle up to your boss in hopes of a promotion or raise. This can be deadly to your career. Enough said.

Pursuing romance in the workplace may or may not be a wise idea for you. Here’s the down side, with issues to consider before you get in too deep.

But don’t despair…there is a right way to handle romance in the workplace. See Part 1 and Part 2 for insights in how to get it right.

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About this Examiner: Kathryn Marion is the award-winning author of GRADS: TAKE CHARGE of Your First Year After College!, the most comprehensive resource for navigating the world of work and independent living after graduation, as well as host of the book’s companion resource site, The print edition of GRADS: TAKE CHARGE is available through Amazon and other online booksellers. The e-book edition is available through e-junkie.

Kathryn also coaches students, graduates, and career changers as well as consults with small businesses and aspiring authors.

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