You have met with your child’s teachers. You suspect that the bullying has continued, even with the best efforts of the teachers involved. It is time to consider further actions you can take in cooperation with your child’s school.
First rule of dealing with bullying is to help the victim first. If you are seeing the signs such as:
- Appearing to have few, if any, friends with whom he or she spends time.
- Seeming afraid of going to school or taking part in school activities
- Lost interest in school work or sudden drop in grades
- Appearing sad, moody, teary, or depressed when he or she comes home
- Complaining frequently of headaches, stomachaches, or other physical problems, especially when it is time to go to school for any reason.
- Experiencing a loss of appetite, anxiety, or a sudden lack of self-esteem and confidence
seek help from the school Guidance Counselor or other school-based mental health professional. It is important that your child receive help coping with the bullying. There are resources within your child’s school that can help them while you deal with the bullying behavior issues by working with teachers and administration. Most resolution and cessation efforts take time to become fully effective. Your child needs the on-site emotional support of the Counselors while everything is resolved.
If there is no improvement after working with your child’s teacher, speak with the school principal. The teacher should have already reported your meeting and concerns to the school principal, but in some cases the principal needs to hear your concerns more directly. As with your meeting with the teachers, approach the principal with an attitude of cooperation and keep the meeting friendly and non-confrontational. Principals, like teachers, are there to work for you and your child. They are human, treating them as responsible adults and displaying courtesy and respect will help you and your child far more than any other approach. Use the same script you used in your meeting with the teachers. Ask questions, listen, and help them understand you concerns and observations. Keep notes on your conversation with the principal as well.
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