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Work to Live, Don't Live to Work.

Work to live, don't live to work.
Work to live, don't live to work.
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In this economy one might feel pressured to sacrifice a work-life balance just to keep their job. But after you hear the trade-offs, you might reconsider.

A good work-life balance is where you work to live and not live to work. We all need to work to pay the mortgage or the rent and put food on the table and provide for our families. But when you are working so much that you don't have time to spend with the ones you love, what good is all of that money and all of those lost hours with your loved ones really worth? Sometimes we get so caught up in work that we forget about our lives and forget to prioritize what's important. That’s normal. But you are in charge of your work-life balance. Not your boss.

Things that contribute to a bad work-life balance:

  1. Working for someone you abhor
  2. Working for a company you despise
  3. A long commute or a short one with hellacious traffic
  4. Working for a company that doesn't value your values (e.g. vacation time, flexible schedule, recognition, pay)

Let's face it, working for someone you hate or a company you despise is more stressful than you can imagine. You get worked up every time you open an email from your boss, or every time you walk into the office. You despise your meetings with your boss and you do what you can to avoid him/her.

We all know that a surge in adrenaline caused by severe emotional stress causes the blood to clot more frequently which increases the risk of having a heart attack. So wouldn't you want to reduce your stress level by working in a better place or for a better boss?

A long commute is another detriment to your life. Even if you've managed to mentally deal with road rage and even if you've embraced public transportation and have reduced your carbon footprint, you are still robbing yourself of time - your precious time. Eight or more hours in the car or on the train is the equivalent of working an extra day per week. But you are only getting paid for five, not six.

You can talk yourself into it anyway you want by claiming to multi-task from the road by, taking phone calls, having meetings, texting, shaving, putting your makeup on - whatever. But you are still robbing yourself and the people you are interacting with of your full attention. Not to mention that if you are driving while doing this you are a danger to society.

Time is a precious thing that we all take for granted when we get into a groove with something. But life can change in an instant. Remember 9/11? Sure that didn't happen in the Bay Area but how about the 1989 Loma Prieta earthquake? Life happens and sometimes we don't get to do it "tomorrow."

Your Inbox and email will still be there tomorrow. You can miss that supposed deemed important work meeting and catch up via the meeting notes or from a co-worker tomorrow. The point is that until you set boundaries, no one else will respect your time. Only you control your work-life balance, decide on how you will react to things and only you can set your boundaries. Take charge of your life again.

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Tracy has more than 25 years' experience in the work force. She has significant experience in a start-up environment, executive management, middle management and several years in the nonprofit sector. She has studied several aspects of organizational behavior, has received professional coaching...

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  • celia gal 2 years ago

    what you don't hear are cases of people who hated their last workplace so much that they have become terminally angered and never enter the workplace for a long time to come. I'm sure there's a term for people like this, but it's a good thing to remember always - work to live to be responsible, not work till you drop dead and never having smelled any of the roses. but you still need money to live, it doesn't grow on most trees that I know of.

  • Tracy 2 years ago

    Hi Celia,
    Thanks for your comment and I agree. I have another article coming up tomorrow on work-life balance. I don't think any job is worth that much stress. People don't realize but an enormous amount stress is unhealthy and takes a toll on our bodies and our lives. I think we get into such a routine sometimes, that we forget to stop and smell the roses, like you say.

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