Many of us tend to take criticisms at work to heart instead of remembering that they are business-related, not personal. If we can separate the negativity we feel after being criticized at work and bucket it into a “work only” space, it will help us remember what is important in life and find more balance. Here are some ideas:
- Once you leave work, leave everything that happened that day at your desk. Don’t let it follow you home and ruin an evening with your family or friends.
- When someone critiques a project negatively, remember that it is business, not personal. They aren’t criticizing YOU or your character-even if it feels like it sometimes, especially from superiors or those not skilled at interpersonal communication.
- After a negative situation arises at work, balance it out by doing something positive for yourself. Escape the office for 15 minutes and take a quick walk outside. Go to your favorite shopping website and look at new items. Or if you can’t find any other means of escape, go to the bathroom and sit in the stall for a few minutes to reflect on something you’re looking forward to—a night out, a vacation, seeing your kids at the end of the day, etc.
- If you’ve been publicly humiliated in a meeting or via email, remember that you aren’t the only one who has ever been the center of negativity. And luckily for you, some other officemate will do something dumb soon enough and the focus will shift off of you.
- Always remember—it’s business, not personal. If you keep repeating that to yourself, it will put your problems into perspective and let you focus on all of the things in your life that are most important-and for most of us that isn’t work.
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