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Work-Life Balance: The Stick Has Two Ends

Find your balance
Find your balance
RAC

“The stick has two ends,” an old Chinese proverb, applies in our business World of Today, more than ever. “Balance” an overused word in todays coaching lexicon does have a place, perhaps not in the way typically used? Many perceive balanced as “an equal portions of ingredients” blended into our daily lives to produce the desired outcome – success!
If the stick is 10” long, mid-point is 5” and at that precise point the stick will in fact balance if the material is uniform that makes up the stick. Mid-point in our working day would be (for a traditional 9-5 vocation) 12:00 noon, and for many that is when we break for lunch, errands, walks, etc. to gain some perspective on the day, re-charge our internal batteries, refuel our bodies with food, or as many do meet someone for lunch and work through our break.
Reviewing Fig. 1 - one sees two circles (Personal life / Business life) and within each circle we find (6) slices representing typical aspects of ourselves in each realm. Measurements or “metrics” (as we call them today) can be determined using a traditional scoring method. I like to measure this way – at the center of the circle where all lines meet I define as 0%; the rim is defined as 100% … depending upon who does the grading we get a realistic picture of “how we are doing,” either from a self-evaluation perspective (and we are always the harshest critic) or a very valuable glimpse from our supervisor. We must remember this grading is a “snap shot in time” of our performance and not a hard final score.
These circles become our metaphoric “stick”; each slice in itself becomes another “stick” … the biggest “take-away” from this exercise is that when one really looks at what’s happening in each slice and within its respective circle it becomes clear that when “something” is going on in one slice it affects the other slices within that circle as well as the other circle. “When mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy,” we’ve heard this before and it’s true … try to do an effective job at work when you’ve left home that morning having experienced a huge argument/fight and the last words you heard as you walked out were, “You better ask for that raise today … or don’t bother to come home!” Our personal lives affect our professional lives and vice-versa.
Under these circumstances, “Life Coaching” {link Life Coaching from my web site into this here} seems a very appropriate approach. What’s needed isn’t a “business solution” nor is it “professional therapy” – a blend of disciplines is called for and I’d describe it as therapeutic (not therapy).
From a purely selfish point of view I’d suggest a “Life coach” to handle similar situations, one who “doesn’t have a dog in the fight”. Life does distill into a series of “sticks” that all have two ends and the sooner one acknowledges this and begins to accept that fact, the sooner everybody involved will find success.