Wedlock. Wedded Bliss. The Ties that Bind. Commitment. Marriage - you and your spouse both have to work at it. Let me share our story with you:
When Chris Wamsley saw Rachael Justice in the cafeteria at Indiana Bible College nearly 18 years ago now, he will tell you his heart stopped. That when he saw Rachael Justice, the earth moved and he knew that she was the one for him. Problem was, Rachael Justice felt completely different about that! Chris chased Rachael everywhere - when she dated other guys hoping he'd lose interest, it only made him pursue her further. When she was finally available after a heartbreaking breakup, Chris saw his chance and took it. It's been 15 plus years of love and war ever since.
Why is it people who are completely different seem to be the most drawn to each other? What's the staying power? Well if we're honest we know about the times it's just about enduring, the times it's about building, and the times it's about enjoying each other as we are. When your husband swears he married the most stubborn woman in the world and you think you married the most selfish person ever those are the enduring times. The enduring times are the pits because stubbornness and selfishness go nowhere. So then your husband thinks you being stubborn is why you are also the strongest woman he's ever met and maybe that's why he loves you. And of course you love hearing that. Because then your husband is thinking about you, not just himself. You may think your husband is selfish but he has a full time position, is going back to school to improve his earning ability and brings every cent of his paycheck home. That's a good man. You know it.
Both Chris and Rachael are honest with others. We fight like cats and dogs sometimes. The previous 3-4 years we just went through were right out of Apocalypse Now. But that's done. Now we're here and striving for our future. Because in the end, our marriage is what the real deal is all about.