We’ve known for years that men classify women based on….well that part is still considered classified information…but the point is there is a classification system that men tend to use in their “man world”. Women we have a tendency to be a little more discreet with our classification of men. We meet them and, almost automatically, place them into one of three categories of usefulness where they more than likely will stay unless something magical happens to change our minds.
First Category: Friend Role. It’s nice to go out and have an evening of fun with the guys that we consider “friends” but that’s all that we have in mind. An evening of fun is the reason we decide to go and share our time with our friends; nothing more, nothing less. The problem? These same men…the “friend” type are always wanting something more, like alone time at their home or an extended evening past the original plans. They don’t seem to understand their role and that it is to simply be friends!! Men seem to always miss the friend hint(s)….go figure!
Second Category: Intimate Role. The next type of man makes it through the friend role because a different and often deeper connection exists. These men play the intimate role. There is definitely a strong physical attraction to this guy, and he makes us feel like a woman, but there isn’t enough substance there to want to have a long-term relationship. The intimate man is for satisfying needs only. The problem? The intimate man may seem like he can be upgraded to the permanent role (discussed next) but he’s normally not ready for such a responsibility. To avoid any sticky situations the intimate man doesn’t spend the night nor does he get any of the perks that the more permanent man would get.
Third Category: Permanent Role. The last type of man is the permanent man. This man makes you forget all about the other two types of men that have been playing their specific role in your life up until this point. The permanent man understands you and you genuinely enjoy spending time with him. Often times you both get so wrapped up in each other that it’s easy to lose all track of time. The permanent man is the man you are able to share your goals and dreams with and his goal is to make you happy. The problem? You may have to go through a few of the permanent role guys to find “The ONE”.
There are always going to be handsome, intelligent men with sex appeal and a great personality out there, but your individual connection with this man will seal his fate in one of the three categories above. Obviously, men and women are going to continue to have ongoing relationships, but the type of relationship ultimately depends on the classification system that we have created for ourselves.
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