Wedding season is fast approaching. Dates have been set, and someone has said yes to the dress. Couples have told guests to "save the date", and cakes have been tasted and tested. Now that the hard work leading up to the big day has taken place, what's next?
The wedding day brings about several challenges, even when everything has been planned to perfection. What happens when the unexpected goes down at your wedding?
If someone objects at your wedding, how are you supposed to respond? What if you do, and she does not? Should you have security for uninvited guests?
Readers submitted some of the wildest wedding stories they have ever witnessed:
- Does anyone have a handkerchief?
My cousin married his long time girlfriend. He literally rained sweat during the entire ceremony. He went through several handkerchiefs, then Kleenexes, and finally paper towels. The sweat just would not stop. And the poor bride cried through the entire ceremony. It wasn't a happy cry. It was a loud, gut wrenching mournful cry.
Everyone just carried on like none of this was taking place, but it has all been memorialized on video. --Anonymous
- Speak now or forever hold your peace
I recall a wedding that had an objection. A woman showed up to the ceremony and objected. She was the groom's child's mother. At one point, the groom had been engaged to her and the bride at the same time. The groom broke their engagement and continued on with the bride. The pastor had to stop the ceremony and discuss.
The child's mother told the entire church what had taken place between she and the groom the night before the ceremony. She told the bride what the groom had worn to their rehearsal dinner, and all the groom could do was plead with the pastor to continue the ceremony.
The ceremony was delayed one and a half hours with the drama. The bridesmaids wanted to fight her, the bride was talking about pulling blades out. All the groom kept saying was that he wanted the pastor to continue the ceremony! The groom really did spend the night before his wedding with his child's mother, not knowing she was going show out the next day. The ink did not dry good on the marriage license before both women were pregnant and fighting in the street over him.--T. Jones
- Uninvited guests
Picture it, a wedding receiving line, 1986. Bride and groom greeting guests. Groom's side piece is in line with the groom's signature medallion on that he had designed for himself. She proceeds to go up to the bride, and flashes the piece while asking how it felt to taste her while she's pleasing her husband. And that's when the fight broke out! Cake everywhere, dresses torn, and reception hall destroyed.-- T. Jones
- Say I do
I was a bridesmaid in my cousin's wedding. We were standing at the alter, and when it got to the part of the ceremony where he says I do. He froze.
At first my cousin tried to get him to say I do. She so softly spoke "Baby, say I do." He just stood there.
His mom from the 1st pew said "Son, say I do". She had to stand up and say, "Son, baby, say I do".
I stood there like, "what the h***?!". Everybody did. He finally said, "I do", after his mom said it the second time.
Needless to say they are divorced now.-- Anonymous
- Bridal beat down, stolen groom
I actually went with a girl to break up a wedding. We whooped the bride's **s, and the groom left with us. The bride knew it was coming. The bride and my friend had so much beef it was crazy. The last thing the bride did was bust three tires and key my friend's car. Previously she taunted my friend with, "Ha ha, I got your man," and interrupted my friend's tryouts for dance line, starting a fight.
I became involved when she tried to flee the scene and hit my car, after the tire slashing incident. The groom and my friend were together the night before the wedding. We had already planned our interruption, so when the pastor asked for any objections, we ran to the front, grabbed the supposed to be bride and dragged her to the back.
There were people blocking the door so no one could help her. There were a lot of us, so she couldn't get away because we had her surrounded. The police had to break it up. We ended up getting away, but both the bride and my friend had to go to court. They both did a little time in jail, but my friend and the supposed to be groom, ended up getting married. They have been happily married for eight years, and we have not seen or heard from the would be bride since.--M. Fitzpatrick
From uninvited guests to fights, why do people turn a beautiful day into wedding melees? How in the world can you prevent any of the above from taking place at your wedding?
- Tie up any loose ends. Do not carry on simultaneous relationships, and expect things to go smoothly when you finally decide where you want to be like Donnell Jones. Before you can start something with someone new, end it with the someone old.
- Make sure this is what you want. You do not have to marry someone, you would rather not marry. If you decide marriage isn't for you, tell the other person before the cakes and dresses are ordered.
- Hire security. If you know you have crazy exes, employ a security company to act as ushers, and keep everything in order at the door.
- If you want one last night as a single person, get that out before you commit. That's way before the engagement. All of these fantasies about getting it in one last time with that person you'll never be with again creates unnecessary drama.
- Stop sharing. Sharing is not caring. If you share a partner while you're dating, up to the point that you get married, you will likely share that partner after you're married. Who wants or needs that in his or her life?
- Quit pulling pop ups. If the person marrying someone else, chose not to marry you, leave that person alone. Save yourself some embarrassment and hard feelings.
- Being messy will bring you some mess. If you think you have won a prize by snagging someone's mate, and then want to go the extra mile of rubbing it in the person's face, you are due for a world of hurt. If you get the ring, let that be that, and leave people alone.
Have you ever been at a wedding that went totally wrong? What happened? Leave your comments below.