I tend to speak more on how men cheat and their cheating ways, but I do want to address the issue on the reverse side and acknowledge that women also cheat. I believe that the number of women who cheat has increased over the years, but is nowhere close to the percentage of men who cheat. I can’t give hard numbers here to support my theory. I can only take a poll of the women I know and can confirm that half of the women I know in committed relationships have at one point and time cheated on the person they are in a committed relationship with.
Women who do cheat do it for different reasons than men do it. Men will cheat because the opportunity has made itself available to him. Men are visual creatures and will go after someone they are sexually attracted to. Not to say they will try to knock off every single woman that comes around the corner with a big butt and huge breast, but there is a greater likelihood of him cheating with someone based off of the physical. Women aren’t as easily co horsed into bed solely based on the physical. We can be sexually attracted to a man and fantasize about having a sexual encounter with a man, but the majority of women won’t act on it. Hence I said majority; that could be 51% of women not acting, because a lot of women may take that chance. On the other hand, I find that women are more likely to have revenge sex than men are. A woman will sleep with another man to get back at her man for cheating on her. I have never understood how this was supposed to work in the woman’s favor because if your man finds out you had revenge sex then you are either going to lose your man or he is never going to trust you again. From my point of view you lose either way and now may have to worry about being pregnant by another man or bringing home an STD.
Typically a woman will cheat on her man if she is not being fulfilled in certain areas or something is lacking. Women are loyal to a fault when they get involved in relationships. Once a woman falls in love she is there for the long haul. She will have your back and support you through thick and thin. There isn’t anything a good woman will not do for a good man. However, if her man is not giving her the attention that she is longing for she will find that attention in another man. She may not be looking for it and may not even realize she is starved for attention until someone else shows it to her. If she needs her man to make her feel special, sexy, appreciated, or anything else that she is craving from her man and he is not fulfilling her needs she is more susceptible to fall victim to an affair. This holds true for men as well. If men are feeling that their needs are not being met he is more likely to find himself in an affair also. Refer to “Is My Man Cheating On Me?!?!? http://www.tamikalanelle.com/2010/10/is-my-man-cheating-on-me.html
Are their signs that your women is cheating? Yes, there are signs, but they are not a blatant as men. Women are a little more clever and discrete in their cheating methods. You can’t go through her phone and find the names of men that aren’t familiar to you because more than likely she has hidden his number under one of her best friend’s name. You aren’t going to smell the sex on her because she always smells good and stays fresh. Your woman knows how to cover her tracks. If the new man is in her car, she will remember to adjust the seat back to where you last had it or move it all the way up because the kid was in the front seat. Most women include cheating in their normal schedule. She won’t be out late or have unaccounted time because she has finagled a way to make in happen in between grocery shopping and picking up the kids. She doesn’t have to worry about the other man blowing up her spot either because she has been honest with him about being in a committed relationship and he knows how to play his position. Women have an easier time at getting away with cheating than men do when it comes to playing the game. For the most part women keep it together. Sometimes women get sloppy and get caught slipping so they get busted, but that does not happen too often so I wouldn’t bet on that. The sure fire way for you to find out is for her to flat out tell you and that is because she feels guilty and confesses to her crime of love (Should You Confess? http://www.tamikalanelle.com/2010/08/should-you-confess.html), which I am against. You will notice subtle differences in her though. If her sex drive changes or if she is no longer having sex with you then she may be getting it in somewhere else. If she is not coming around or calling as much, she may be entertaining another man. Watch for the changes in her habits. If she is missing in action and can’t explain where she is or who she has been with then there may be cause for alarm.
I don’t condone cheating for any reason at anytime for anyone. If you want to be with someone else then let it be known and make your move. I think it takes a lot of hard work to make a good relationship work and all parties have to be committed. If you find that you want to be single and not be in a real relationship then you need to be honest with yourself and your partner and walk away from the relationship. Cheating does not solve whatever issues have arisen in your relationship, it only makes things worse. Love yourself and respect the one you are with enough to be honest about your intentions and your feelings. It may be a hard conversation to have, but you will have better results in the end. If you have a problem with infidelity then seek help and seek God. He can make you better and get you to where you want to be.
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