After a busy day at the office you decide to crash down on the sofa and flip through the channels on T.V., your phone sitting right next to you. In today's time, it seems that people are glued to their phones. At one point in time phones were made for only phone calls; now people surf the web, watch TV, and text. Some people use those features much more then making actual phone calls. Texting has become popular. It has also become so popular that it has become a pitfall in the online dating world.
There seems to be a growing trend of people texting entire conversations. It is understandably fun, and exciting to be getting to know someone and at the same time be able to keep up with daily tasks. But there are some major concerns about getting to know someone solely based on text messages. The problem with this is that people abbreviate and shorten not only their words but their ideas, there is no tone, and things get mistaken easily. So until you know some one well, it may be best to send only text messages that are short and to the point, such as "how are you" or "running five minutes behind, see you soon".
Text messaging is not something that can be taken seriously. When a woman is interested in a man she will give him her number. It is not uncommon for the man's next move to be a friendly text message. Lately the trend seems to be men staying in the texting phase and never progressing. This will lead to the woman eventually thinking that he isn't very interested in her because he is not making the next move to get to know her more. She could also assume that he is texting many more people and can't be bothered to call her. This may be an over simplification of the thoughts that run in the back of the minds of women but it is there, in their mind, in some variation or another. The same can be made about men, who have often been seen getting frustrated when a woman says she is too busy to talk on the phone. Not moving away from text messaging can kill the momentum of the budding romance.
Texting is a great way to keep in contact, or to drop a line to let them know they are on your mind. It is a horrible way to have in depth and meaningful conversations. It can, and often does lead to misunderstandings. Remember that your phone does more then texting and after you get that number from that special someone, don't be afraid and give them a call. You want to keep the romance alive and not let it die through meaningless text messages.
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