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Why men need to become more aggressive in their pursuit of women

Aidan pursuing Carrie
Aidan pursuing Carrie
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What do women want? A woman will not stand for the lazy courtship. The mature and confident women who know what they want in a man are above dating games, and they are the ones who will make the best partners.

When a man (not a boy) meets a special woman, he will most certainly care about her, and what it takes to keep her interested.

The less passive you are in your pursuit, the more interested the Woman will be

Some modern men in Vancouver may believe that chivalry and courting are old fashioned, unnecessary tactics of impressing the woman they desire, and have become passive in their pursuit. Many women in Vancouver find dating extremely difficult for this exact reason.

In our generation, women are noticing that men are becoming more and more passive, feeling less of a need to put effort into their pursuit. This is perhaps because of online dating apps such as PlentyOfFish offering many other options, and therefore causing men to feel as though not much effort is required.

The Lazy Courtship is a turn off for Women

The sexy and aggressive Alpha Male has become a diamond in the rough, making way for the rise of the lazy man, and the Lazy Courtship. This happens because women let men get away with it. Low self-esteem causes some women to settle for less, or as some suggest, becoming the new men – aggressively going after what they want in order to make up for the aggressiveness men are lacking. Since many women love to be pursued, this is a major problem.

How to stand out in Vancouver's dating game

Acts of chivalry will cause men to stand out, as women still crave these acts. Gentlemen: Whether you are looking for a special lady or have found one, how is your passive demeanour going to show her how special she is to you and more importantly, keep her around? A girl may be attracted to your nonchalant attitude, but a woman will not be.

For a couple to be compatible, a mutual interest in progressing the relationship is required.

If a woman is initiating without an equal amount of initiative and effort on her man’s part, she will begin to feel that she is pursuing him, and women can’t stand that feeling. Women are interested in men who take initiative and pursue them.

Equal effort is especially important during the beginning stages of a relationship, when a woman is relying on momentum and natural progression. For example, if a man cannot even put forth enough effort to plan a second date, or send a text message on a fairly regular basis, the woman will translate this behaviour to mean that he is just not that into her.

Because women are so accustomed to the lazy dating game in Vancouver, it may sometimes be hard to tell whether he is not interested, or simply too lazy and passive to put forth effort.

A woman will often walk away if she is left wondering, because she knows that when a man is sure he wants to be with her, he will put effort into his pursuit.