Dear Jennifer, I'm newly single and this whole dating thing is not going very well. My friends talked me into online dating but it’s more of a hassle and not really helping. I keep getting stood up for dates and I'm not sure why. I haven't been left waiting at a restaurant or anything like that. They just text me shortly before the date and give some obviously fake excuse. I'm beginning to lose faith in men. Why do I keep getting stood up? Sometimes weeks later I’ll hear from them. Should I go out with them if they ask again? -Lauren
Dear Lauren,
Dating can be hard but don't lose faith in men. You have to kiss a lot of frogs in order to meet Prince Charming but what do you do if the frog never even shows up for his smooch? Count yourself lucky that you didn't have to sit through a date with this jerk and move on with your dating life. Keep in mind that most men who are actively dating, especially online, have many pots in the fire. You're probably not doing anything to cause these guys to flake out on you. Dating is a numbers game and you just weren't number one on his list. You may be getting stood up because someone he's been trying to get a date with for weeks finally said yes to him so you get put on the back burner. It could be a case of the ex-girlfriend who he never wanted to break up with called him with a sob story and he rushed over to her house. Maybe it's not even another woman you've been blown off for but it's courtside seats or a luxury skybox. No woman can compete with a luxury skybox. Don't make the mistake of accepting another date with this guy. Of course last minute things do come up in life, like having to work late or family emergencies, so you'll have to use your best judgment as to whether or not his excuse is valid. Never overlook his rudeness and lack of respect for your time. There should be a good amount of profusely apologizing and begging before you agree to another date with this guy. There are too many men out there to waste time thinking about some guy who flaked out on you. When you finally have a date with a guy you really like you'll appreciate him even more after all the losers you've had to sift through.
Yours truly,
Jennifer
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