As we roll through life, we take on many responsibilities, some willingly, some by default, and these responsibilities eventually come to identify us. Mother, father, child, employer, employee, some we embrace and others we feel have been thrust upon us. We sometimes come to hate circumstances that force us to do things that we would rather not do. Keep jobs we hate, stay in awful relationships or marriages, enable our children to make bad choices, being overweight or out of shape, we claim our helplessness with these situations instead of identifying them as our own choices.
When I was a little girl, many times I heard the expression ‘you are not the boss of me’ or ‘you are not my mother’. These proclamations are universally understood by children that, other than mom, we are the boss of ourselves. Yet as adults, we muddle that thought with the circumstances we don’t like in our lives and come up with, we have no control. Somewhere along the way, we forgot that we are the boss of ourselves. We make all of our own decisions, even to allow someone else to make choices for us. We are all in charge of our own life, good or bad.
I think this is the secret to a happy life, simple and yet so incredibly difficult for most. We are all utterly and completely in charge of one person, ourselves. If you don’t like your job, be a better employee; acquire better skills or different skills to change it. If you are unhappy in your current relationship with a spouse or lover, get out of them or reevaluate the merits or non merits of them. If you want to be happier, surround yourself with happier people and make a decision to be happy every day. Raise your standards for yourself and the people you choose to share your life with…YOU CHOOSE TO SHARE YOUR LIFE WITH. Reevaluate YOU, instead of focusing on the people and circumstances that you would rather believe, brought you to a place that you are not happy with. Focus on where you want to be and how you need to change to get there, and then do it. Start today by recognizing that you alone, are in charge of your life and have been all along, so that tomorrow and next year you can own your happiness because you created it.