Trust is the most important thing to have in any relationship but when is being friendly with an ex-lover considered being “too friendly?”
Sometimes a man and a woman decide to remain friends even after an attempted commitment has failed. Although there is nothing wrong with keeping a platonic friendship there are boundaries that should be discussed especially if one or both persons’ are involved in a new relationship.
It is a man’s choice to remain in contact an ex even if he is romantically involved with someone new. If the new spouse or girlfriend feels uncomfortable with this arrangement then she needs to say something and he should listen and respect her feelings.
Keeping in touch daily with an ex is fine, but when the text messages or phone calls become emotionally in depth, it is still considered being unfaithful. Even if the flirting seems innocent, it is very inappropriate and could even jeopardize his current relationship.
It is a definite red flag when a man keeps an ex hidden from his current mate. Meeting his ex at the local bar for drinks or sneaking around is wrong. Taking calls at all hours of the night is another no,no and should be nipped in the butt immediately.
If he begins to feel uncomfortable then he should sever all ties. She may feel that there is a chance for an old flame to be rekindled. Basically he needs to tell the her to back off so that he can focus on the new woman in his life.
It is understandable that his ex may be his best friend but he needs to realize that his new significant other should come first.
When the ex begins to cause conflict between the two partners then the man needs to make a decision. If he chooses his ex/friend over his new love, then that could explain why he has kept secrets from the beginning.
Perhaps the man and his ex should try to re-connect romantically if they just can’t seem to let each other go. After all, it isn't fair to the his new mate.
No woman deserves to feel threatened by her mans ex and hopefully he will make the right choice before it is too late.