Remember the Wendy's commercial where the ladies examine their hamburger and then one wants to know, "Where's the beef?" The hamburger had a huge bun, but that's not what was important to those ladies. They expected a larger hamburger patty.
In John 13, Jesus told His disciples, "By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.” We like to think we have love for each other. We like to sing about it. But do we really have it? Do we really show it? Like the ladies looking for the beef, many non-believers look for love in Christians.
The question becomes: what should they see? The problem is that people have different concepts of what showing love is. In a Youtube video, a pastor claims he loves the members of his church, yet he openly criticizes members of his congregation. In my opinion, he has an odd way of showing love. He says, "You can't get this in any other church in town." I would think the rest of the town should be thankful for that. After listening to the video, my question for you, "Is this real love?" Would someone who is not a Christian want to attend this church? Would they want to know about God's love with this as an example? Would a Christian even want to attend this church? The Bible says that love covers a multitude of sin. Is this pastor covering?
Jesus tells us what real love for one another looks like. It's not in words, but in deeds. In Matthew 25, He teaches, "Then the King will say to those on His right hand, ‘Come, you blessed of My Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world: for I was hungry and you gave Me food; I was thirsty and you gave Me drink; I was a stranger and you took Me in; I was naked and you clothed Me; I was sick and you visited Me; I was in prison and you came to Me.’
“Then the righteous will answer Him, saying, ‘Lord, when did we see You hungry and feed You, or thirsty and give You drink? When did we see You a stranger and take You in, or naked and clothe You? Or when did we see You sick, or in prison, and come to You?’ And the King will answer and say to them, ‘Assuredly, I say to you, inasmuch as you did it to one of the least of these My brethren, you did it to Me.’"
That's love as a verb. It's action. It's meeting the needs of other Christians. It's done in humility, not for a show. And like the lady in John 12 who broke the alabaster box of perfume and poured it on Jesus, it is done as Jesus taught, expecting nothing in return. When Christians minister this way, then the lost understand real Christian love. They comprehend it through our deeds as Jesus taught, "Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven." When that happens, lost men, women, and children will be drawn to the light and get saved.
Is your light shining? Do you have any works for others to see? Would people know you are Jesus' disciple by your love? Is your love seen in actions or just in words?