When you're out of work it is important for you to stay in action. But not the kind of action that is manic and sporadic, like an oozie shooting out of control in attempt to gain power amidst the circumstances you find yourself. Instead, more like an astute marksmen, you will want to stalk, take very calm and steady aim, control your breathing and abrupt movement then take your shot.
You might be saying to yourself, “oh sure, try being out of work in this market!” It is very difficult while in survival mode to be calm. Unlike our ancient ancestors, most of us rarely need the immediate reaction of fight, flight and freeze that many of us get when faced with unemployment. Unfortunately our brain still responds to our thoughts about how we will survive, because we project our thoughts out past the present moment, into fear of the unknown.http://www.amazon.com/Super-Brain-Unleashing-Explosive-Well-Being/dp/0307956822/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1359316602&sr=8-1&keywords=deepak+chopra+super+brain What we then get is the manic, knee jerking behavior that is designed for true danger. What results is panic fatigue, sapping the energy we need to stay on the hunt and keep our keen skills of observation in tune.
It is important then to keep out of the flight, fight and freeze reaction mode, and maintain a calmer, optimistic demeanor. Activities such as regular exercise, meditation and massage are commonly simple, yet very effective; they help change the state of your emotional brain system. Allow yourself to experience the stages of grief; denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance, http://www.ekrfoundation.org/five-stages-of-grief/ that you are sure to find yourself. Work is connected to meaning and purpose for most people in our culture and when the activities that bring life to meaning and purpose are cut, grief will be experienced, even if you think you are happy about it at first. The states of grief will not be time limited, or in any neat and tidy pattern. Be prepared for them to present themselves, and cycle around and through your days, they are to be expected. If you do not allow the expression of grief, it will result in grief fatigue, sapping you of the will you need to stay the course.
Support is central to helping anyone make any kind of change. Support just doesn’t mean a warm body, it means people who understand, and help you to understand, what you are going through. This doesn’t mean diving down into fear with you; it means they are capable of “keeping the light on” for you, as you struggle to believe there is any light at the end of a period of darkness. It is helpful to know who “your people” are, before any event such as unemployment occurs. These individuals and organizations then can help you to get back to doing what you do, contributing what you have to contribute to the missions, within the geographic area that you belong.
- Take care of your brain so it can help you take care of the rest of your body
- Find ways to relax (https://lisabeachy.com/Theta_Healing_Videos.htmlfor a no cost example; your local library may have this kind of activity on DVD’s or CD’s or use this internet link)
- Allow yourself to process grief http://www.meditationoasis.com/category/grief/
- Connect with the support that is right for your hunt
- Take focused calm regular actions
- Find ways to relax
- Allow yourself to process grief
- Connect with the support that is right for your hunt
- Visualize your positive future paint the details of the picture!
Have a grand adventure!
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