When you lose someone close to you your whole world changes. Everything you’ve been and done comes into question when you are faced with a loss. Whether it was your brother, sister, mother, father, lover or best friend, your life will without them be forever altered because they were a part of it.
Your tangible relationship with your departed has been ceased, and your journey onward must now transcend to honoring and memorializing that relationship.
The most common spectrum of grief is Elizabeth Kubler Ross’s theory of the five stages of grief from her book On Death and Dying. These stages are denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.
If you are dealing with your own loss then you may be experiencing or have experienced one or more of these stages. If you are human, then it is good to experience them. Though these stages are not very pleasant they must be dealt with and fought through for the loss to begin to heal.
The best you can do for your loss is to let yourself feel it wholly and completely. Surround yourself with friends and family who allow you to feel your grief. The suppression of your grief will only make your journey onward more difficult.
While you are living you owe it to your self and to your relationship with your departed to make the best of the rest of your own existence.
“No one’s death comes to pass without making some impression, and those close to the deceased inherit part of the liberated soul and become richer in their humaneness.” ~Hermann Broch
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