Imagine being on the other side of that anger; if you are that person the anger is directed at time and time again, not understanding how to fix the problem because it isn't yours to fix. Imagine thinking how love should cancel out hate, only to find out that anger can be masked in such a way that the person who is angry doesn’t even realize it, doesn’t accept that the anger is deep-rooted within. Imagine having to walk away from that kind of situation, even if meant walking away from someone you loved.
It’s not easy. But, as solid as we build our relationships, we are still expected to appreciate them, right our wrongs, seek answers so that our negative behavior doesn’t hurt the ones we love, even if they do understand; especially, if they understand. It can be hard to identify anger when we are too scared to look at what really is the source of the problem. Could it be we are angry at ourselves?
In my case, could it be when things didn’t go according to my moving plan, I felt a little out of control of the situation? My unsure and uncomfortable feelings made me angry and frustrated at myself but I didn’t know where to direct my anger because it was hard to look that in the face. And, we’re just talking about furniture here, something pretty insignificant, and something that can easily be remedied. What happens when anger stems from loss, from fear, or simply from the lack of love?
It’s scary to admit that there are things in life that cause us to carry around pain that only finds its outlet through anger, things that have hurt us that we might not be able to change. But, it doesn’t mean that we can’t change ourselves and stop a cycle of hurt behavior. Because anyone who continues to run away from their anger without thinking anyone will notice can only look forward to the day it blows up in their face.
Are we to wait for the explosion?
When we're angry: Part III to follow...