“He stabbed me in the back” is more than a Halloween prank at work. That invisible knife can hurt like hell and the effects last way longer than a real knife in a street fight.
There are those at work who stab and smile. They are usually the ones who keep their masks on all year and the true self of evil and revenge are under the radar.
What to do with those who are two-faced? The good news is that once you can see their true colors you can manage the damage they bring. The bad news is of all the workplace behaviors I have identified and helped to transform the splitter/back-stabber is the toughest to transform.
Our fascination with all things vampire is really about the splitter. You see, they look just like us most of the time and yet… something is just not quite right.
Their thirst for blood to stay alive means they will do anything, trick you, pretend to treat you, just so long as you stay a willing victim to have your energy sucked up time and time again.
Once the splitter who tells you one thing and your colleague sitting at the next cubicle something totally different they are in charge, ready for the kill, unless… you won’t play the game.
Splitters trick us into believing in them. Here is one way to spot a splitter:
BEWARE: anyone who says “I’ve got your back.” That’s splitter talk.
Take Jane for example. She would always guard her boss and his back. The gate keeper, his right hand gal, she was always there for him and he loved the “safety” she provided. No one could get to him without her permission. Then one day he wondered why he had so few interactions with his staff.
It took some HR intervention, which translates into detective work to find that Jane would tell the world in a very quiet way “He is not to be trusted. The only one he really listens to is me. I will get you what you need from him. Stick with me, I have your back."
Watch out for those who want to protect your back and who are always eyeing your neck for that sweet spot!