When to give cheater a second chance - part 2 - National infidelity

Certain circumstances may warrant giving a cheating
husband or cheating boyfriend a second chance.
This article, part 2, tells what they are.
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Under what circumstances should a wife like Sandra Bullock or Elin Nordegren give a cheating husband a second chance?

Many women with cheating boyfriends or cheating husbands are looking for guidelines on how to decide whether or not to take a cheater back. This article is the second of two articles that will help you decide whether or not to reconcile with a cheating mate. See Should You Take a Cheater Back? – How to Decide - part 1

There’s never a valid excuse for a person to cheat on his or her mate. See The Top 10 Reasons Why Men and Women Cheat

But there are several circumstances which may sometimes warrant giving a cheating spouse or significant other a second chance.

Circumstances Which May Warrant Giving the Cheater a Second Chance

If you’re struggling with the decision of whether or not to take a cheating husband or boyfriend back, see if any of the circumstances below apply to your situation.

You might want to consider taking the cheater back and giving him or her a second chance if the infidelity occurred under one of the circumstances below:

Was the infidelity

• an isolated incident, such as a one night stand, rather than a pattern or history of infidelity?

• committed under the influence of drugs or alcohol, which resulted in poor judgment or lowered inhibitions?

• committed while the cheater was going through a midlife crisis of some kind?

• committed as a misguided response to a life crisis such as the death of a loved one or the loss of a job?

• the result of sex addiction, where the cheater is seeking, or willing to seek medical or professional help?

See Why Women Stay With Men Who Cheat

Other Factors to Consider When Deciding Whether to Take a Cheater Back

In addition to the circumstances surrounding the infidelity, there are a few other things you should consider when deciding whether or not to give a cheating spouse or significant other a second chance. Consideration of the factors below can help you decide on the best course of action to take.

• the type of infidelity
• what stage the affair is in
• the cheater’s degree of emotional attachment to the Other Woman or the Other Man
• the cheater’s attitude about the affair
• the cheater’s feelings about infidelity in general
• the cheater’s level of commitment to you and to your marriage or relationship

See Should You Take a Cheater Back? – How to Decide - part 1

More Help on When to Give a Cheater a 2nd Chance

Additional help with your decision of whether or not you should take the cheater back and give him or her a second chance, can be found in the free tip sheet entitled, Go or Stay - How to Decide Whether to Give a Cheater a Second Chance. This free tip sheet is available by e-mail request.

The Go or Stay Tip Sheet will walk you through the difficult task of deciding whether you should end your marriage or relationship with the cheater, or whether you should stay with the cheater, and give him or her a second chance. It contains the following information:

• key factors to consider before you decide
• when to give the cheater a second chance
• when NOT to take the cheater back
• the biggest obstacles to taking a cheater back
• how to overcome your biggest fears about reconciling with a cheater

To request a free copy of the Go or Stay Tip Sheet, e-mail InfidelityAdvice@gmail.com with Go or Stay – Xm in the subject line.

Help on Reconciling with a Cheating Mate

If you decide to reconcile with your cheating husband or cheating boyfriend, and give him a second chance, you will benefit greatly from the Affair Recovery information in the Bonus Section of the e-book version of Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs available from www.Booklocker.com.

In addition to 3 other special infidelity reports, and a special section for men entitled Is SHE Cheating, the Bonus Section contains the following affair recovery information:

• What the Two of You Must Do to Survive Your Husband’s Affair
• Advice for the Husband Who Cheated
• Advice for the Betrayed Wife
• Can Your Marriage Survive His Affair?
• Will He Cheat Again?

NOTE: The affair recovery information only comes with the e-book version of Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs. It DOES NOT come with the soft cover edition of the book.

The 2 Biggest Fears People Have about Taking a Cheater Back

The 2 biggest fears you may have about giving a cheating husband or cheating boyfriend a second chance are the fear that the cheater will cheat on you again, and the fear that the affair is still going on behind your back. These are very valid fears which are discussed in the article entitled What Are the Major Obstacles to Taking a Cheater Back? This article also gives several suggestions on how to deal with, or overcome these fears about giving a cheater a second chance.

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*** © copyright 2010 Ruth Houston All Rights Reserved.

Ruth Houston is a New York-based infidelity expert who is frequently called on by the media to comment on high profile infidelity, and popular infidelity issues in the news. She is the founder of www.InfidelityAdvice.com , the author of Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs, and publishes the Infidelity News and Views blog. To interview infidelity expert Ruth Houston, or have her speak at your next event, call 718 592-6029 or e-mail InfidelityExpert@gmail.com

For more information on this topic, see the articles and free tip sheets below:

Should You Take a Cheater Back? – How to Decide - part 1

Why Women Stay With Men Who Cheat

Go or Stay? – How to Decide Whether to Give a Cheater a Second Chance (free tip sheet)

What Are the Major Obstacles to Taking a Cheater Back?

What Ordinary Women Do When Their Husbands Cheat

How Wives With Cheating Husbands Can Gain the Upper Hand (free tip sheet)

What NOT to Do If He’s Cheating on You

5 Things You SHOULDN’T Do If He’s Cheating on You (free tip sheet)

Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs (e-book version with Affair Recovery information)

Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs (WITHOUT Affair Recovery information)

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