22 Feb 2013 was day when all the world focused on three words: love, crime and judges. Judges are most important part of society – the laws and judges direct the society and these directions impact my, yours, everybody’s destiny… How the laws and judges response on crime is crucial for the progress of humankind. However, yesterday Oscar Pistorius was freed on bail in a murder case.
Me and (hope) you, my readers, will be never on the side of killers since we neither have guns nor have in mind that to kill helps to resolve any problems. However, after this case we will be more careful who we will connect with, since yesterday’s bail may open the mind of others to believe that any killing can be judged as a mistake.
There are different groups of people who have been approaching Pistorius case: all close to the victim (Reeva Steenkamp, 29, a model and law school graduate, shut on Feb. 14 after she locked herself in a small bathroom in Pistorius home), close and fans of the killer, and others among which are philosophers and neurobiologists. If philosophers connect with neurobiologists, they may make a discovery: how exactly happens at once a person who has been losing and/or has been hurt by the “only one” to have gone into a state of mind that created a project or a spontaneous reaction of killing, suicide or other violence. A husband may kill the whole family, then commits to suicide in a burning home; a lover may kill the loved one, children may kill their parents … The list of violence of a hurt love is long and sad, filled with the pain of the people who lose their children, relatives, friends, members of respectful communities. Again just because the philosophers and neurobiologists can’t answer this so simple question: Why does the brain become violent in cases of rejected and hurt love? Although it looks simple: when one loves, all the world becomes in fact the subject of love through the loved one; then, if you lose the loved one, all the world falls apart, all your happiness falls apart and it looks you are lost for this world forever. But why does the brain become violent? Why does one decide that killing somebody will make him free for the world; in particular, why did Pistorius not commit to suicide after realizing the result? What kind of brain has this killer?
The humankind created a therapy model thousands of years ago not to become a killer: the embedded believe in people that above all is God, you need to love God and then everybody else. This model works well for majority since even if you are hurt badly emotionally, your love in God will make you overwhelm the stressful situation coming from the feeling that your happiness has been killed by somebody.
The problem with this model is that it may make many people arrogant to other people. In fact whether you will put above all nature, God, your profession, or somebody who does not create any problems in your life - it is one and the same. The human has been developed as a personality to be connected to somebody/something who/it to provide the happiness. The happy people are those who are able to create this invisible bridge with the right subject on the other side. Pistorius may have become extraordinary in the sport, but neither the money nor the sport decoration helped him to become an extraordinary personality. He became a killer because neither money nor medal and title decorations make people extraordinary although he had entered the world of extraordinarity. This is also typical of the academic world – ordinary people have been occupying extraordinary positions, and these ordinary people hurt very badly just because in their mind the life is modeled in a way which is rather different than the ideal academic environment of extraordinarity. They have been profanizing the academic world becoming most dangerous especially for gifted people (Tringham - Cashdan syndrome).
By chance yesterday was also the 50th birth anniversary of Douglass W Bailey, one of the greatest American anthropologists who had successfully changed the paradigm on research and approach to prehistory. He has departed from the pseudoscience and “mythological” method of interpretation of past and has refreshed the scientific methods with his own approach. Colleagues and friends of Bailey have gathered to celebrate his anniversary in “Empathy as a learned connectivity”, a book in progress. Yesterday, when his anniversary was “decorated” by Pistorius' bail, it looked more valuable to have thought as anthropologists how to help humankind to resolve the biggest gift and biggest trouble in the world: the impact of love on the human behavior. Bailey may have his own approach to the problem to share with the world, since in 5, 10, or 20 years he may never forget to mention that he entered the 3rd Age in the day of Pistorius’ bail and probably this fact would make his anthropological mind more sensitive toward his own world of love and empathy since the third age is the most the age of love, happiness and empathy!