Most of us haven't been taught to end relationships. While we are mostly caring with one another, ending a professional relationship in an open and intelligent way is important to both, the client and professional and can be an incredible growth opportunity.
The gist is we spend more time pleasing people around us then we do telling them when it is over. The problem with this is that we sometimes miss out on the opportunity to cut down on aggravation, frustration and feeling guilty about saying simply enough: "Thank you, I'm moving on."
Avoiding Guilt. The major culprit to avoiding facing the professional you work in explaining it's now time to move on is guilt. We feel guilty about ending the relationship. How silly is that consider the pressure we put on ourself and the other. We try not to cause pain and sorrow, but in the end, we create much incomprehension and frustration.
When To Say Goodbye. When it's time to go, it's time to go. How easy would it be to acknowledge our time together, talk about the positive parts of the lesson and what wisdom we got out of it. It's equally as easy to say that we now fell it's time to move on, explain why and say goodbye.
It's not unusual to see a coaching relationship last for three months. It's also not unusual having had a few coaches over the years. We start out with a generalist and eventually find that perfect match. In the end, it's much better to engage openly how you feel and be upfront than letting a relationship linger in the netherworld.
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